I was diagnosed in April with Aspergers syndrome/ASD by a psychologist who specialises in Aspergers in females. This was a massive revelation for me, because it explains so much about the struggles I've had all my life. It has brought me to a place where I feel I can finally truly accept myself.
My DH was involved in the diagnosis because they need an outside perspective. He was happy to give his input. But once I had the diagnosis, he refused to discuss it further. He says nothing has changed, I'm still the same person, so what's the point in making a big deal of it?
But for me it IS a big deal because it gives me tools to cope with difficulties such as dealing with social events, jobs, sensitivities to noise etc. And the dreadful anxiety I have suffered from all my life, and and so many other things. It was amazing to discover a whole community of people who have similar struggles to me. And that my brain really is wired differently (not wrong!)
I feel very hurt and dismissed by his attitude to be honest. I'm basically not allowed to utter the A word in the house. I haven't dared tell anyone else about my diagnosis because I'm scared they will dismiss it too - my DM doesn't know (she WOULD dismiss it, she doesn't believe in things like that) and my friends don't know.
I just want to know if this is weird? Should I just leave it? Am I really just making a fuss over a label that doesn't really change anything? I don't know what to do.
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DH refuses to accept or discuss my ASD diagnosis
muminboots · 01/12/2014 12:01
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