so, been separated a year. were together nearly 19 married for 13 but towards the end he became physically and mentally abusive. was dangerous for me and kids. anyway very soon after that he moved in with a new partner got her pregnant straight away baby is due next month.
we have two dc's 7 and 3 and he has seen them regularly several times a week either here or at his mums. I have stuck to this as I feel he needs to be semi supervised due to the dv and I wasn't happy with him having kids at his flat and exposing them to another new person at this stage.
this had all been progressing and divorce proceeding on grounds of adultery. but I have just received a court date as apparently I am unreasonable and change mind at last minute. this is rubbish as I have never said no when he has wanted to see the kids and even changed plans to accommodate him. in fact he is the one who goes away for weekends with the new woman and doesn't turn up or changes it at the last minute.
rather than deal with the divorce he is obsessed with kids meeting this woman and they are so distressed already I think its too soon and a gradual introduction can be done in time.
anyway I am so nervous and stressed about going to court so scared that he will get his way as he always does. have no one to go with me either and the whole situation is getting to me so much
really struggling to eat and sleep and I just cant believe he can throw away a nearly 20 year relationship and two kids away justlike that as if we were nothing. given the timings I think he was probably involved with this woman before but who knows
I am just so sick of worrying and stressing and really really hate being single and alone all the time with no one to come home to no comfort off anyone and after all he put us through he sails off to play happy families without a care in the world
I just feel lik nothing and no one and he was so awful to me I have no confidence in myself and justbfeel like my life is over
I have no idea how to getout of this mindset and deal with things I feel like am having annervous breakdown
have been to gp and have pills but I still feel so desperate and hopless
please anyone with any experience in any of these things or even any kindness please please help
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help! ex taking me to court as apparantly i am unreasonable re contact. very stressed
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yummytummy · 29/11/2014 20:25
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