Dsis has been with her dp for about 2 years. He seemed full of charm and she thought he was me perfect.
She soon after found that quite a few of things he had told her weren't true. She then found he had been married (he didn't tell her) and he later admitted to her that it was true.
Still they've carried on. He's financially and emotionally abusive. She works more than she ever has before and has less money now than she ever has. She pays for them to go on holiday - he complains that he doesn't like it and causes arguments - and to his country (where he leaves her with the women in the family who speak no English)
He can be fine for a while and she says how happy she is but then I get messages saying he's gone crazy with her again, putting her down, shouting, leaving her and telling her not to contact him until he returns, throwing food back at her that she's made him, the list is endless.
All I can say is please leave him as it will get worse/he won't change etc
It's good that she tells me every time but on the other hand it makes me feel very stuck as there's not much I can do.
To make it worse she wants them both to come to our house this Christmas. Obviously I'd love to spend Christmas with my sister but not him. If I say he can't come I will probably not see her.
What can I do? I really hope someone has some advice for me.
She's won't listen to anyone.
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Abusive relationship advice for dsis
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Doubtfuldaphne · 29/11/2014 19:43
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