To keep it brief. Im looking for advice and support to help me through the next few months. Ive been with my wife for 12 years, we have a duaghter (age 4) together, she has 3 kids from her previous (16, 20, 24 years only the 16 year lives at home). After much research ive finally hit the nail on the head. My wife is someone you call a "passive aggresive person" (google to see defenition).
I cant financially afford to leave as im paying the debt off for my business that i started 10 years ago, ive another 2 years to pay.
I also find guilt in wanting to leave with my precious daughter at her vunerable age with my wife being this person. To be honest im unsure when the time comes if my wife will leave me in full custody of her.
Why have i found myself in the situation? Why have i allowed it to happen? I dont know, i just always hoped for it to get better and normal.
I feel the need to be happy again and im sure for my Daughter that can only be a good thing, a content father.
Forward thanks everyone for any replies be them positive or not so.
Silent treatment can go on for days and it tends to come back to normality progressively with the odd scarcastic comment.
To stop it i have to say sorry, take the blame even though i know majority of the time ive done nothing wrong.
So ill ask her, is everything ok? Her reaction, "you tell me" Why you asking" "Should there be something wrong with me". She never gives me a straight answer, not until its passed and were talking again. Example: Ill come home from work, phone rings work related and i take the call, i can be on the phone for 2 mins and she doesnt agree, but as said this point wouldnt be made for days via the cold shoulder treatment.
Silent treatment and the old 'if you don't know what's wrong I'm not going to tell you' crap is pretty nasty stuff, not to mention completely unhelpful. If you felt confused and dispirited, that's probably the intended result. No one can read minds and when a bully decides you're in the wrong, it's usually because that's where they want you. If it's got bad enough to end the relationship over, I think you should tell her.