In shock here. I've just completed the circle of security parenting course and it's made me face some harsh realities about my own childhood, which I've always thought was "not that bad" because it wasn't like I was abused or anything.
Circle of Security is all about communication and attachment and meeting the child's needs, and the importance of "being with" them in their emotions. The idea is that the child feels safe with emotions and isn't frightened or overwhelmed by them. Some of the key things which affected me were the importance of not minimising issues, not blaming the child and trying to identify the underlying need. I think maybe I needed time and support from my parents, but they thought I was just attention-seeking and blamed me for being a "problem child". I still don't really deal with emotions particularly well and I now think this might be something to do with this.
I can't talk to my DM about it as she's the one who spent years telling me it wasn't that bad, and my DF died when I was 11. My DM just twists anything I say about it and conversations get very heated very quickly so I just don't bother any more.
Sorry for waffling, I don't even need any replies, just needed to get it off my chest. Don't know if any of this makes any sense.
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KiltedKoala · 28/11/2014 07:09
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