Hi I hope someone can give me some help, I kind of understand what passive aggressive is and I want to know if this would count as being so. Being very very quiet 90.% of the time when sober but when drinking they don't stop talking and are like a different person . He would work go for 3 pints go home get in bed by 7 and stay there all night unless it's weekend. Would rarely plan anything I would have to he would on occasion if he hadn't bothered with me say shall we go cinema.
Texting loads and being lovely one week the next barely hearing from him and hardly responding to texts. Never really asking how i am (am pregnant and suffering from extreme uncomfort and breathlessness nothing major!) Stopped having sex with me for 3 months from 13 to 22 weeks of pregnancy ( my being pregnant wasn't the issue apparently) won't really talk to me about issues in our relationship just goes silent and when does say anything they can be quite hurtful untrue accusations. Couldnt be bothered to see me during the week as said he was too tired and lazy he would always go to the pub though. After initially wanting to mix socially with my family he all of a sudden more or less refused to seemingly overnight ( he rarely see his own family apart from eldest 25 year old son who lived with him and they go pub together alot) my little lad would say his name about 8 times before he would eventually say "yes mush?" I see a message on his phone once yo his son saying he didn't want a boring for night in with me with my kids terrorising him. He said he didn't like to get angry as he isn't very nice that's why he hates arguing and avoids it . He was a very emotional man and have seen him cry a few times in particular over his dad., there were issues there I think. I've ended up on anti depressants as felt so worried and up and down the time we were together and I felt it was me imagining things. I've always felt he doesn't really love me as in the beginning as with all new relationships he was all over me but tight up to the end he was still affectionate with me always cuddling or holding my hand and saying he loved me?. Also as a side issue .He was 20 years older than me and also he would take me down the pub and be a totally different person and I'm feeling now like I was an ego boost for an old man and a bit of a trophy if I'm being honest with myself. I have ended things due to his Refusal to compromise and give me more of his time ie coming to see me in the week he said he goes distant sometimes and he is like it with his own family and they don't have a choice but to put up with it but I do. He has now said when I text him upset a week afterwe sepwrated (ie pregnancy hormones! ) that I was right and he was never going to move in with me and if things were really ok he should of been movin in with me like a shot. What I'm really asking in a round about way is , is this a passive aggressive person or was it a whirlwind romance I got pregnant and he realised he didn't love me in the end so he has been messing me about and not treating me properly ?? He also has entered once contacted me in 2 weeks it's like he has cut me out totally . That is so long and totally jumbled up I'm sorry I'm bit confused and all over the place , I feel a bit bonkers . Thank you I'd appreciate replies if possible xx
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hayleyanne31 · 27/11/2014 07:57
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