What I'd really like to know is how long and how much - first hand experience from others who are willing to share.
After much advice I am now at the separation agreement stage. I am aware of various routes, legal aid or not and what comes after. I'm a nervous MNer after being torn apart for asking advice on settling a newborn (never again). I won't say anymore about my situation with partner and kids if that's okay. I'd just really value how it was for you as I don't have any close friends with this experience.
I'm in Scotland but any UK experience is v v welcome!!
Sorry you had a bad experience elsewhere on MN. I'd hope you'd find the Relationships Board a softer landing than somewhere like the AIBU bear pit or similar Context is everything when it comes to legal matters. If you and your ex partner are reasonably amicable and cooperative, you can avoid a lot of costs and settle many thing privately. If there's any hostility or obstruction it'll take a lot longer and cost a lot more.