5 weeks ago I found messages from another woman on DHs phone. He told me that he had been planning on leaving me for her after Christmas. We separated and I know it's permanent, (I don't want him back). He had never even met this other woman, just had contact online and on the phone. Our relationship has been a battle for years. He is not a bad man but has been suffering from depression for some time. He has been suicidal and got very close to an attempt after we argued after I found the stuff on his phone. Actually, it was not just one other woman, he was on sex sites and talked to lots. It was just that this one was someone he developed strong feelings for.
It's obviously been a very difficult time, particularly when having to tell the DCs, (8 and 6). He is living at a friend's during the week and back at weekends at the moment. He went to spend the weekend with his new girlfriend for the first time this weekend. All my friends tell me it won't work and there'll probably be no chemistry between them. The weird thing is, that doesn't seem to make it any better. I couldn't bare to see him heartbroken. Much as it's very difficult to think of him with some other woman, I worry about him! I couldn't make him happy and I was tired of battling in our relationship. Maybe someone else can make him happy. I have two perfect DCs and at the moment that's more than enough for me. He should be back at his friends now and I just text him to tell him about our DC's school assembly which is later this week. He hasn't text back and I'm feeling anxious. I just want him to be ok....I really do appreciate that this must sound like madness! I don't really get it myself.
Not sure what I expect you to say. Just putting it out there!
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Jezzabelle · 24/11/2014 21:51
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