Hi,
DH is in the emergency services and works shifts which vary to early mornings to night shifts. They are 12 hour shifts & it's common for days off to be cancelled at short notice.
I have recently returned back to work post mat leave & really struggling with the support I get from DH.
For example LOA is teething, & was up 1/2 the night. I have had literally 2 hours sleep. DH comes home from night (albeit via the pharmacy to bring in more supplies of calpol which saved me a job!) & goes to bed. He gets a full 8 hours sleep while I deal with a grumpy toddler.
Tonight might be more of the same, he is at work tonight, I am due back in work tomorrow so will have to do a full days work on no sleep, while he gets to have the house to himself & a good sleep.
If I am ill it's my mum I call to help not DH as I can't guarantee he will be there to help.
It's making me feel quite lonely & invisible. I resent he gets a good sleep generally where as for me it's pot luck & I still have to get stuff done. It's rare I get a lie in on my non work days as generally hubby is sleeping off nights / lates or has gone to work early.
I resent having to find a baby sitter if I want to meet my friends in the evening as he is not there to look after him. I have missed out on loads of meet up with my friends recently as it haven't been able to find someone.
I resent going to functions alone with LO if he can't make it. It was my cousin wedding this year & I went with my LO on my own as he couldn't get the day off. I found it really hard juggling a baby & enjoying myself.
I don't feel anything he does intentional it's just the nature of his work.
I just don't know how to fix it, but can't face living like this.
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Not sure how to fix this - living with a shift worker
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cookiemonster100 · 24/11/2014 10:20
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