Struggling with a few friends problems at the moment.
Firstly, a friend who blows hot and cold and so I never know where I stand with her. We used to see each other quite a lot, but when we met she'd sometimes be moody and very hard work and act like she didn't want to be there. So I cut back on the amount of time that I spent with her (which handily co-incided with me going back to work), however she is still very hot and cold with her moods and I am questioning whether or not I really want to bother with her any longer.
We see each other on the school run most mornings and sometimes she's all chirpy and nice and wants to chat, and at other times, like this morning, she walked straight past me and ignored me when I said hello and just glared at me. I don't want a full on chat every morning but a friendly "hello, how are you?" is surely no bother? She always seems nice enough with other people, and chats animatedly to them and is smiling away.
The second is a friend that I went to school with and we have stayed in touch over the years. However she is such a control freak and will only ever meet up with me at her suggestion, and when it suits her. I never bother suggesting anything anymore to her as it's always a blanket No. Yet she gets extremely put out if I won't drop everything to fit in with her plans. I get that we all have our own lives and we all want things to fit in with us, but surely sometimes a bit of give and take is needed?
It just pisses me off as there's never any flexibility from her. Even for things like coming out for a meal for my birthday are a No. Unless she suggests and organises it, ie the time/venue/date/company suit her, then she is not interested.
How do I handle both of these situations?
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Friends who blow hot and cold, and friends who want it all on their terms
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PenelopePee · 24/11/2014 09:45
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