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Internet chat and POF

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cambridgemumble Sun 23-Nov-14 13:31:54


Well I am settling into slightly lost single mum life now that the Captain has started school. His Dad isn't on the scene (one night stand) and I really don't want to start introducing other men into the house at all. We have some lovely male friends and my brother doing that job.

But ....

I would like some snogs and casual sex - to be honest. Don't worry - I know about contraception now.

How do people find POF?
It seems a bit, well, rough.
Are there nice guys on there?

What about internet chat.
Back in the day I had a few fun flings with people I had met on line but a lot of those anonymous turn up and chat sites seem to have gone. Where does a gal who has to be in during the evening but enjoys a bit of an on line flirt go?



Hesaysshewaffles Sun 23-Nov-14 13:55:18

I would probably try tinder instead of POF for that.

DollyRocker1 Sun 23-Nov-14 13:56:40

I don't the sort of messages I've been getting on POF. If you're prepared to pay Match is probably your best bet.

DollyRocker1 Sun 23-Nov-14 13:57:48

I always thought Tinder was just a bit of fun. Have sat next to guys on trains who've been swiping girl after girl

cambridgemumble Sun 23-Nov-14 14:09:24

Yeah . I tried Tinder a little. It is a mix of people who want sex in seedy hotels and married men. Mostly married men who want to meet during the day for sex. It was fun now and then but really want just to go back to casual dating where there is noting implied or planned. Just see how it goes.

Match is just too expensive and it got me nowhere. Not really looking for proper dates and long walks on winters days in the country.

cambridgemumble Sun 23-Nov-14 14:44:51

Or does anyone know some nice single chaps near Cambridge?

Dirtybadger Sun 23-Nov-14 16:23:43

Just like to say I have successfully used POF for what, I think, you describe.

100% of the sex coming from POF has been at least "quite good" and 50% of the men have turned out to be way better (like, as people) than I expected. The other 50% ranged from "a bit odd" to "meh, alright".

It has been slow going, though! If I had more time and was more active in using the site, though, I'm sure I could be giving you even more positive data! You just have to be open minded about things not going perfectly to plan and also quite picky.

cambridgemumble Sun 23-Nov-14 20:01:58

Thank you.

Love the name!

cambridgemumble Tue 25-Nov-14 18:35:55

So POF might be better than I thought.

But what about internet chat, where are people going?

Surfboredcat Tue 25-Nov-14 18:55:14

I would recommend POF over any of the other dating websites and believe me I've tried them all!
Tinder - never looked like their pictures
Match - dull
Eharmony - dull
POF - I met some decent people who I'm still in touch with, people who I could hook up with if I wanted to and finally, someone I'm now having a great relationship with (I know this isn't what you're looking for but just as an example)
I did make it quite explicit in my profile what I did and didn't want and found that I didn't get too many cranks luckily! grin

Surfboredcat Tue 25-Nov-14 18:55:39

For chatting I met them online and then chatted on whatsapp

cambridgemumble Tue 25-Nov-14 18:58:09

Thanks Surf

But what I really mean are those sites where you could register completely anonymously and then, if you wanted, have some text or phone sex, but it was very removed from real life.

POF I have to put my photo up and Watsapp is my real number.

McSqueezy Tue 25-Nov-14 19:02:33

You don't have to put a photo up on POF , and even if you do, you can hide them anyway so they only show up to people you message and not just any ole so and so who happens to stumble across your profile.

Specify that you're only looking for something casual, flirting etc. and away you go. There will be plenty of people looking for the same thing.

Surfboredcat Tue 25-Nov-14 19:03:09

Oh I see! I had no idea such sites existed! blush
<secretly marks place>

cambridgemumble Tue 25-Nov-14 19:04:44

They used to.

Yahoo chat, things like that.

You could be very slutty and no one would every know.

cambridgemumble Tue 25-Nov-14 19:05:16

It did lead to some slightly foolish encounters, though!

TinyWishes Tue 25-Nov-14 20:47:29

When I was on pof ( back in the day) I had some fella message me asking if I would fart in his face and how much do I charge.

Lol was funny. If you have a gsoh and like the below poster said make it really really explicit in your profile what your after then you shouldn't have any weirdos! Unless you want to! Was an excellent ego boost. Enjoy.

cambridgemumble Tue 25-Nov-14 20:53:52

I've just left the farting in my fact thing behind, or thought I had, but now that my little boy is at school, he has discovered an interest in all things farty.

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