Hi there- just throwing this out to get others opinions.
Basically a (single) man I know has been having an affair for several years with a married woman. She has a 7 year old son :(
I know nothing is as black and white as it seems and people have affairs for various reasons and it doesn't make them bad people but in my opinion and from what I've seen from family and friends who have had affairs, whilst the adults get hurt they eventually move on and in most cases find other partners. But from what I've witnessed its the children who often become the casualties of affairs. Take my sister, she had an affair (she is now with him) he had 4 children and his wife was pregnant with their 5th child, roll on 8 years and I believe the consequences have drastically changed these kids futures. The older ones seem to be on a path to destruction and are full of anger and frustration. Obviously this could have occurred without the help of the affair but personally, I doubt it. I also have several friends whose husbands have had affairs and again the children do all seem to have struggled in some way.
However, this man I know will not agree with me he says kids are tougher than they seem and this sort of thing doesn't change them. He says its too easy for an adult to blame their behaviour/actions on their childhood experiences! He doesn't have any children of his own btw.
What are your views/experiences on this?
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Do affairs always affect the children?
rubynoodles37 · 23/11/2014 11:14
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