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Problems in the bedroom

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Synatics Fri 21-Nov-14 12:02:48

Hi, I'm a guy in a relationship of three months and me and my girlfriend have recently run into the issue that we every time we have sex it hurts afterward for her. Having recently gone through that honeymoon stage of jumping each others bones whenever we had the chance, we now find ourselves having sex maybe once a week. Whilst sex is by no means the only part of the relationship, I feel it should be a fairly important one. She frequents these forums and passes a few links on to me, many being enlightening and amusing. So I thought a few of those opinions may help here? Medically I'm almost certain there's nothing wrong with either of us and she puts it down to the fact she "tenses up" because in the previously mentioned honeymoon phase we did get to a point where it hurt because of a UTI, promptly gave it a rest for a few days, got some antibiotics and it was all fine. Now she seems to expect it to hurt and puts it down to that? I would be very grateful if anyone may have experienced similar issues with a partner?

Mugg1ns Fri 21-Nov-14 12:26:42

Fibroids ?

Beanie99 Fri 21-Nov-14 12:31:56

Surely you should still be in the honeymoon stage after only 3 months. Can you GF make an appointment to see her GP?

gamerchick Fri 21-Nov-14 12:32:50

Your girlfriend posts on here?

BuzzardBird Fri 21-Nov-14 12:35:09

Are you being a little [ahem] vigorous?

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 21-Nov-14 13:01:58

If she's experiencing pain during or after intercourse then she should see a GP. In the meantime, if she's tense during sex, spend a lot longer on foreplay and a lot less time on PIV. Inadequate arousal can also lead to internal dryness and that can result in pain on penetration. Do not carry on if there is pain

TheHermitCrab Fri 21-Nov-14 13:02:49

If you've tried all the usual, more foreplay, being gentle, lube...etc and she had no pain before, I'd recommend seeing a doc :/

Twinklestein Fri 21-Nov-14 13:23:11

Another possibility is that she may have a short vagina. If you're long enough to hit the top it can cause pain.

Synatics Fri 21-Nov-14 13:29:05

I would say the honeymoon period would still be going on but this issue sort of stopped it dead in its tracks. We've tried lube, with/without condom, and I always do my very best in the foreplay department. After seeing a doctor regarding the UTI, I think she feels it would be a waste of time to go to the doctor again but perhaps the kind words will persuade her it's worth getting checked.


TheHermitCrab Fri 21-Nov-14 13:32:36

I think if you go to the doctor and say "I think I have a UTI" they check your urine, and if you do, jobs a good un.

If you go in and say "sex hurts, it never used to, nothing has changed..I'm confused...etc" then the examination becomes more detailed.

There are various conditions, infections or anything that can cause inflammation that can do unnoticed unless irritated.

TheHermitCrab Fri 21-Nov-14 13:32:58

go unnoticed*

Synatics Fri 21-Nov-14 13:40:51

Sound reasoning, thanks.

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