Almost everyone in a solid relationship will look up their ex's on Facebook. But how often is it acceptable.
If a DH/DW have been together for over 20 years and suddenly one starts peeking at ex’s photos, profiles etc from their teenage years, BUT is not a ‘FB friend’ with them, when does it stop being just curiosity to perhaps a little sign that all may not be well.
Personally, I think a nostalgic look for a teenage ex you’ve not seen or spoken to in over 25 years is absolutely fine, even fun. But, I also think there comes a point when the frequency of such ‘peeking without actually being a friend’ can signal perhaps regret, not necessarily over missing out on a particular ex, rather regret over where their life has ended up.
There’s stacks of cases on MN and elsewhere when FB has been pivotal in break ups etc (not the cause thou). Perhaps the trick is to spot signs highlighted through FB usage and try to work things out before they turn into shitstorms.
What are you thoughts on the frequency of such peeks: never?, once in a blue moon? nightly?
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When does Facebook 'nosiness' of ex’s become something more? Stalking or Just curious
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timetogetreal · 19/11/2014 11:26
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