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Paying for sex

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avoiretre Tue 18-Nov-14 14:54:34

Anyone seen this article in the Mail:
Looking at the comments at the bottom, most think that most men pay. Is this more true than we like to admit?

hotblacktea Tue 18-Nov-14 15:38:59

While I wouldn't necessarily place much importance to DM comments, 1 in 9 seems a low figure.
In my very limited sample of former uni and work colleagues, extended family, pub friends etc, I would say it's more like 25-30%.
Some seem even proud about their drinking/whoring adventures in Amsterdam, Prague, Bangkok or Rio, I've come to see all men holidays in these places as nothing more than sexcapades.

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 15:39:42

There are a lot of lonely/curious men out there, I mean, if they've admitted to it then It's likely it's true, but statistics can be skewed to reveal a certain answer, and it IS the Daily Mail lol. I know two men who have (both in Amsterdam) and my OH was completely disgusted when he heard them say it (I could tell it was genuine disgust as we were there at the same time they told us)

The comments did make me giggle though...

Pastmyduedate0208 Tue 18-Nov-14 15:53:57

Paid for sexual services in the UK generates more annual revenue than all money spent on going to the cinema.

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 16:02:07

I'm not surprised! have you seen the cinema prices?! ;)

Tobyjugg Tue 18-Nov-14 16:22:05

Its the way things change. When I was in my 20s (1970s) paying for a fuck was the mark of a total loser. Wouldn't believe anything in the D Mail tho.

avoiretre Tue 18-Nov-14 16:38:46

It does make you wonder why people go to Amsterdam and Prague etc for it when there are plenty of prostitutes here.

Twinklestein Tue 18-Nov-14 16:42:26

It's in line with previous figures of around 10%.

Lioninthesun Tue 18-Nov-14 16:43:08

I think it is part of not doing it on your own doorstep, plus it makes them think it isn't that bad, as it was on 'holiday' and what goes on in X stays in X if they are on a stag do.

I also remember when it was not socially acceptable. I wonder if cheap travel has encouraged this as men think partners/other circles of friends it may matter to simply won't find out?

Twinklestein Tue 18-Nov-14 16:43:13

Jesus hotblacktea what kind of losers do you hang out with?

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 16:59:13

avoiretre- according to my friends who went to Amsterdam it was "cleaner" haha if there is such a thing. I.E insisted on washing in the room in front of the lady (she helped one of them wash?? lol), washing afterwards, room was "nice", lady was "polite"... apparently!

Strange business if you ask me lol

Sex has gotta be a turn off when you have to say "wash first, pay first"

Might try it with my OH. "shower first, put washing on, make my tea, then we do the business"

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 16:59:46

(all in an eastern european accent of course)

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 17:00:19

(just for giggles)

Lioninthesun Tue 18-Nov-14 17:04:09

If anyone wants a depressing read on how 'feminism' is going in this country, try the comments under the article here - sorry for slightly off topic post!

Darkesteyes Tue 18-Nov-14 17:05:13

Toby my DH is the same age as you and hes confirmed what you said. That a bloke who did that would have been seen as a loser.

BOFster Tue 18-Nov-14 17:05:24

These figures are alarming wink

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 17:07:55

Hahaha BOFster I love that

Lioninthesun Tue 18-Nov-14 17:10:37

Really? Because men have to help around the house, be an adult and we don't just turn on with a flick of a switch that means they are paying for it 'emotionally'? shock
I think I am on the wrong MN...

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 17:11:57


The article is from the "News Thump - UK Spoof News And Satire"

Next you'll be saying you've never made a joke about a man before.

Lioninthesun Tue 18-Nov-14 17:15:05

Not at all - I just don't like the way it is trying to justify something that has serious consequences by going back to the 'poor man' argument. If that is a 'joke' then no, I don't get the humour, sorry.

TheHermitCrab Tue 18-Nov-14 17:15:55

That's OK. The Humor isn't for everyone. I however took it with a pinch of salt and had a good giggle. We're all different smile

Lioninthesun Tue 18-Nov-14 17:20:07

I linked to the wrong comments earlier - the Indie story popped up on my fb and the comments on there were horrid - so possibly I was feeling a little touchy after reading the 100th comment of "We all pay for sex one way or another" " If you saw most of the UK wives you'd pay too" and "They love it, women should pay us!" sad

walkingcontradiction Tue 18-Nov-14 17:23:24

I think the key word here is 'admitted'. The reality is probably far more....

avoiretre Tue 18-Nov-14 17:26:06

I'm pretty sure it is much more than that...50% directly and 95% indirectly would be my guess.

Greysanderson Tue 18-Nov-14 17:34:25

95% have indirectly paid for sex what do you mean by that.

Like they say most statistics people randomly come with are rubbish.

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