Name-changed for this. It's 11:30p.m and I just rang my husband to see where he is. He hasn't contacted me all evening to let me know. He said he's having dinner with two ex-colleagues...still there, not on way home.I can hear pounding nightclub music in the background. Married 15 years, two children. Do I believe him?
Head's in a mess. Got home just after 12. showed me emails that his ex colleagues planned to meet up at 5:30pm. he emailed them that he couldn't make it until 7pm (when he usually gets off work). One of them replied that they could probably hang around until 7. i know this man has 4 young children at home - finding it hard to believe he'd stay 6 hours?
Still a bit unclear -- what do you suspect happened? It's certainly not unusual for a group of guys to stay out together until midnight, especially if they are old colleagues who haven't seen each other for a while. Does your husband go out a lot? Need a bit more context for this in general -- how'e the marriage otherwise? Do you think he's seeing someone else?
He told me I have shit in my head and that i probably got these ideas from these forums (he knows about MN). Totally turned it in me and said my thoughts are dirty (because I asked 'who is she') . i had put the chainlock on front door and he said i embarassed him in front of neighbours (we live in apartment block). we always put chain lock on before going to bed.
Yeah, I'm not really hearing any strong or compelling evidence supporting your suspicions. Is it not possible he had dinner with his friends and maybe they went to a pub afterwards that was playing loud music? And if he did that, is that so wrong?
Had he said he'd be home late it would have saved him a lot of bother. I'm guessing this isn't about him asking permission, just having the gumption to give you some advance warning. Has he always got on his high horse when you challenge inconsiderate behaviour?