I have posted before.
I'm still waiting for h to leave. He has given notice to our tenant so it will be January.
He has been offered a place on a DV programme which also starts January.
He is in denial. He doesn't want anyone to know that we are separating. I have told him straight without being mean or cruel that I cannot offer any hope that we will work things out.
He swears he has changed. And he is acting very differently. But for me it's all too little too late.
He is very jealous and a couple of things have happened this weekend which make me feel a bit uneasy.
I have my phone on silent in the house as he tuts and moans that it is constantly going off. Yesterday he went out of the room but was watching me through the glazed door. I picked up my phone and as he came back in he said 'you don't have to hide the fact you are on your phone. It doesn't bother me'. Then ' I think it's an unhealthy obsession you have' etc.
I just said it doesn't affect you at all and I would prefer it if he didn't make comments.
Today one of our male friends called round to drop something off at the house. I was home with DS (19) . H was out.
When he came in the first thing he saw was the thing that friend had dropped off. It was like a fog coming down. His manner completely changed. I could see he was jealous. Then I got silent treatment. Eventually he asked how friend was. Then he went and asked DS how was friend. To check I hadn't been alone with him.
Just to clarify we have been together 24 years. I have never cheated.
It's driving me mad.
2nd dilemma - Xmas. We all every year go to my parents. Obviously h isn't invited. Ds1 (24) has gf and likely spend it with her. Ds2 (24) w not leave his dad on his own. The thought of not being with my sons is awful but I don't want to give h any reason to think we are a couple.
Advice please and sorry it's long
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24 years married with EA. 16 months counselling. I'm done. What now?
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Funnyfishface · 18/11/2014 00:54
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