Not sure where to start with this - but looking for some support from out there. Ideally someone who has been through similar. Current problems that I don't know where to go with. 1. Feeling seriously underemployed, after being made redundant I have tried to go freelance but this is proving a big challenge - working in the education sector the pay isn't good and often to complete projects you end up working so many hours you don't get paid for. Have taken a p.t. post for some regular income. I have applied for so many ft. posts in my field but have been unsuccessful - over qualified (too old!) and yet for other posts - not enough experience but those getting the posts don't have my experience. Also going through peri-meno symptoms which are very challenging. My partner has not been very understanding of this and we are having arguments. I don't know whether to retrain (too old at 50?). In the past I had no problems moving into new jobs and my skills seemed to be valued and transferable, but now - although I'm getting interviews (and have had good interview feedback) I'm not getting the jobs I feel are at my level. Added to all this I have an ex who still causes us a good deal of angst to my children. He now has 6 children by four different women , four marriages - but seems to breeze along getting new jobs and opportunities I feel very resentful of this. He presents a 'Father of the Year' 'New Man' face to the world and meanwhile he doesn't meet his financial responsibilities with us. Over the years he has done various things which I have had to involve a lawyer with. I haven't shared this info widely because I haven't received support for the behaviour he did to me around the split so why would I get support for current behaviour. (He got a woman pregnant whilst I was going through IVF) Very rarely do people comment or criticise (apart from my close family/friends) his behaviour over the years - they ask me if I've heard about his latest baby etc. very insensitive!! I feel like my education/experience/skills are counting for nothing and I feel unacknowledged with the way I have been treated. Has anyone out there experienced similar - how did you find a way through this? Have been for some counselling but it's expensive.
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