I've always felt really really uncomfortable about my dad touching me. It creeps me out immensely. When saying hello or goodbye he kisses on the lips and I hate it. I am in my 40s now and he is in his 70s but I have always felt this way.
I also hate the way he will touch my waist when hugging, in a sort of lingering way, it makes me shudder. And I remember a few specific times when I was younger when he touched me in a certain way, for instance walking behind me at the dinner table and he would touch my back, and he sort of trailed his fingers along it. It just felt creepy, not fatherly at all. I hate it. And I hate thinking about it and I've sort of freaked myself out now, and I thought tonight, "I hate kissing him and I never want him to touch me ever again." And now I don't know what to do.
We don't see him very often. Maybe every 2 months or so? I don't expect I will do anything, just carry on gritting my teeth, but I feel very strongly that women should never have to put up with being touched in a way that they don't like, and it upsets me to think that I've been doing it for years and will probably have to go on doing it for the rest of my dad's life.
I just wanted to tell someone, really. I spoke to dp about it briefly but I think he was taken aback and not surprisingly, had no idea what to say.
Any help untangling this would be appreciated.
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Just realised this is probably not normal to feel this about my dad
dontknowwhatthisis · 15/11/2014 22:03
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