Hello everyone. I'm the father to my lovely three year old DC. This isn't relevant to my feelings on the situation but a bit of background is needed, DC was conceived after a v. brief fling...think as brief as you can get...I knew nothing of the mother apart from her first name and some very hazy recollections of that night!! Anyway, fastforward 1.5 years and she tracks me down with a DC who I could be the father too. Took 6 or so months of persuading, but managed to get her to agree to a paternity test and yes, turns out I am the father.
I cherish this role and do my best... sharing duties/responsibilities as much as I can, financial contribution on a monthly basis etc.
But, mother of DC is a little unusual and perhaps a bit mentally unstable?. She is a good mother with good family suppoert so this is not my concern. However, from almost the start she has been very difficult in the way that she contacts me and in her relationship with me. Constant calls, texts etc. sometimes all through the night, often about her rather than DC if you see what I mean. Sharing emotion which I am uncomfortable with. She is also sometimes verbally abusive.
I have tried to tell her that I would prefer to just have communications about DC and DC's welfare etc. and that these should be at decent times of the day etc. and that she shouldn't say certain things. But she stops for a while and then starts again.
Is there anything I can do? I find it stressful and upsetting to be honest. I've read here about non-molestation orders. So could I get one of these that says she should only contact me with regards to the DC etc.
Help very much appreciated. I'm starting to lose my sleep over this!
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elvispresleysquiff · 14/11/2014 15:59
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