Hi,
I need some objective opinions about my relationship. I am going to try and give both sides here. My partner has depression and gets really angry sometimes. I was (mildly) abused as a child and I get scared when he gets angry, but he says I am being overly sensitive.
We had an argument over nothing serious really. I walked away and went upstairs to my bedroom. We have previously agreed that either of us can call time on a row and walk away so we can discuss it later when we are both calm but he doesn't always stick to this. He followed me and got angry. He started shouting and swearing. I told him to fuck off in the end and he eventually left the room. I slammed the door when he had walked out but he accused me of hitting him with it. I think the only way the door could have hit his arm is if he tried to block it when I was closing it, which I couldn't see from where I was stood. He is not injured in any way from this but he says it hurt. He then tried to force the door open, shouting and swearing at me. I was scared and tried to stop him but he is much stronger than me and so I had to let go and stand back before I got hurt.
I tried to leave but he blocked the doorway and then stepped back and blocked the stairs. Once he let me pass I went downstairs and went to leave the house but he grabbed my arm. He claims he didn't grab me, just touched my arm. It hurt me, but I have a condition that means a light touch can hurt me sometimes. I was really scared. In the end I threatened to call the police if he didn't leave and he did go while I was on hold before I spoke to anyone so I hung up. I then went out for a while until he had calmed down.
We have since talked calmly and he thinks it's my fault for making him angry although he does accept he shouldn't have behaved like that he won't accept that it's abusive.
Am I overreacting?
Sorry it's so long! TIA
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grumpyobsidian · 13/11/2014 22:36
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