I wrote on here a couple of months ago, in relation to a situation I found myself in with a guy I was seeing before he moved 4 hours away from me. He's completely hot and cold with me and I think very manipulative! I'm really annoyed at myself I let him keep me hooked for as long as possible, but now I am left feeling the bad guy! I will try and bullet point as not to ramble too much!
Hot behaviour- very intense- calls me by nicknames like 'how are you, you cute little monkey' 'I wish I could cuddle you all day' 'wow you look so beautiful in your profile pic' . He likes a lot of my photos on instragram on a regular basis (he's not noticed I've unfollowed him!) etc etc
Cold (since he's been away)
- not called me once :/
-taking longer to reply to messages
- when I was in his city seeing friends,on the sat night he asked me what I was doing on the sunday, suggesting he wanted to see me, the convo continues after this and I reply in the morning- he didn't reply til 11pm that night when I had conveniently gone home
- following weekend he pops up asking why I hadn't seen him- safe to say I had a go and said I knew he had purposely not replied on the Sunday til late- he then said he didn't think I would be up for meeting as he knew I was sick from alco the night before and thought I would have been too hungover
- I called his bluff whilst he messaged me that night (purely to see his intention) and said I was an hour away and could meet him the following day- he seemed all keeno and then suddenly stopped messaging me- I expected such behaviour anyway so just messaged in the morning (to get my dignity back) politely saying 'although it would be lovely to see you its not a good idea to drive into london because of the traffic' he replied 2 WEEKS later saying he had only just realised I had sent that message- then said he didn't think I had meant the meeting up anyway- then 'I feel sick come cuddle'
- I NEVER REPLIED
- 1 week later (sat night) he pops up at about 12am saying he had just seen a tagged photo of me on facebook (through mutal friend) and how 'hot' he thought I looked. In my frustration/drunkness I replied 'k'- he then replied '??' And I just deleted the conversation and ignored.
It's weird as now I feel awful that I have ignored him and I was so short with him!!! I actually felt a bit moody and down today and I know it's over him which is completely ridiculous as I know he has messed me around! He's a 'nice' guy in terms of he always speaks nicely to me, but I just think he is being extremely cruel leading me on and I don't think he is genuine! But I don't understand why I'm left feeling like the bad person and have some stupid desire to end it now on good terms! Will someone help me see sense? Or have I been harsh? Lastly does anyone think he knows he's been a d**k head? As if he did it wouldn't make me feel as bad!
Sorry complete VENT- I feel so much better already haha.