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my fella gets right up my nose

(27 Posts)
samandkat Tue 11-Nov-14 23:51:52

My man has just shouted at me for washing his trousers with his wallet in it but if he didn't just throw his cloths ad stuff in every direction and put things in proper place

My man is one who works normal hours in a normal job comes home does nothing and creates a mess then wonders upstairs to bed

I have a six month old baby and a three year old who has ADHD and autism I don't work but I do try washing pots while feeding a baby hoovering up and peeling ds off the ceiling all at the same time but if one thing goes wrong like today its all my fault

Its driving me mad I don't know how to handle this situation

DuelingFanjo Tue 11-Nov-14 23:54:47

Stop doing his washing. He is an adult and can do it yourself. There are people in your house who need help, he is not one of them.

DuelingFanjo Tue 11-Nov-14 23:55:25

Sorry, I mean he can do it himself.

Stylistformyboys Tue 11-Nov-14 23:56:10

I hear you. I've come on to post about my arse hole of a husband & saw yours. FFS men!?aaargh! You ok?

samandkat Wed 12-Nov-14 00:10:18

Yeah I'm fine I'm just really angry right now

What's your dh done to upset you

Stylistformyboys Wed 12-Nov-14 00:26:21

I snore apparently, so for the last couple of months he has waited until I fall asleep & swaps Beds with DS, so I wake up with my 7 yr old most morningsshock getting worse now because for the last week he seems to think its acceptable to put DS in our marital bed from the off set & he gets in his. I've tried talking to him & we've just argued! Don't know what to do.

Catsarebastards Wed 12-Nov-14 00:33:41

OP stop doing his washing

STYLIST nasal strips, ear plugs, separate rooms, you wait til he goes to sleep before you do.

florentina1 Wed 12-Nov-14 08:47:33

30 years ago we had a row about ironing. I stopped doing his washing and ironing and within a month we had an Ironing Lady. After she left, I still left him to do his own ironing.

samandkat Wed 12-Nov-14 08:48:18

I have told him in not doing anything for him anymore since I always get the blame so he can do his own laundry and sort out his own shit from now on

Much to say he didnt like it very much but all well I don't really care right now

Hotsausages Wed 12-Nov-14 16:35:50

I thought my fella was the only selfish pig that doesn't appreciate everything I do around the house for him! Doesn't know how to use the washing machine, never washed a pot in his life, probably doesn't even know we own an iron. Id stop doing it so he would start to help but I can't stand seeing the washing basket build up! GETS ON MY NERVES!

Catsarebastards Wed 12-Nov-14 17:54:43

Perhaps an obvious question- but why the hell did you move in with a person who does none of that stuff if that matters to you?

Hotsausages Wed 12-Nov-14 18:16:36

The lack of appreciation is my problem

Catsarebastards Wed 12-Nov-14 18:20:21

So why talk about stopping doing it so he would start if you arent actually bothered about him doing it? Also- didnt you get to know him before deciding to live with him?

jakesmith Wed 12-Nov-14 18:22:37

Checking pockets is basic plus it's quite hard to miss a whole wallet when you pick up a pair of trousers

Mammanat222 Wed 12-Nov-14 18:25:01

Checking pockets is basic plus it's quite hard to miss a whole wallet when you pick up a pair of trousers

Similarly if someone else is doing your washing the least you can do is check the bloody pockets.

Hotsausages Wed 12-Nov-14 18:35:18

A little help would be nice "now and again", just having a rant with the rest jeeeeez

BeCool Wed 12-Nov-14 18:40:03

Contributing to household chores is not "helping you" - it's being a grown up and taking responsibility for your life and that of your family.

Leaving one partner to take up all the household chores and responsibilities shows a massive lack of respect.

OP your P is possibly doing this simply because he is lazy, but at least in part he sees cleaning up after everyone in the house as your role in life.
Either way he is showing a total disregard for you as a person and for your life.

BeCool Wed 12-Nov-14 18:43:12

If someone really can't learn how to use a washing machine and how to sort washing, they would have problem functioning on the most basic levels in their life.

Why do you believe him when he says he doesn't know how to use a washing machine? can't you show him, or give him the instruction manual? THink back to how you learnt how to wash clothes. Was it really that hard?

Catsarebastards Wed 12-Nov-14 18:45:10

Well rant somewhere people arent going to take you at face value and offer advice. This is relationships. People come here for relationship advice and not just to say "Men, eh?" expecting a ((hugs)) hun and loads of nodding in agreement.

If you dont want to change your situation then fine but dont be surprised that people point out that you can when you rant in public about it.

Jeez hmm

Hotsausages Wed 12-Nov-14 18:52:27

There are many threads on mumsnet where people are having rants about men.... I chose this one to post on as it's relatable... No harm done smile

Catsarebastards Wed 12-Nov-14 18:57:33

Yeah well dont get arsey when people dont mind read and actually give you advice. Perhaps you should have said in your first post that you were just ranting and didnt want anyone to respond to your post.

The question still stands though- why the hell move in with what amounts to an adult sized toddler? confused baffles me why women do that and then whinge about it.

Hotsausages Wed 12-Nov-14 19:06:35

Haven't been arsey one bit. smile

Catsarebastards Wed 12-Nov-14 19:14:22

Ock not at all smile

Fairenuff Wed 12-Nov-14 19:17:03

My fella? My man? What's going on?

Has someone broken mn?


Catsarebastards Wed 12-Nov-14 19:22:11

I think they've switched the sign on the door with t'other one.

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