I've posted before about my husband walking out at the start of this year for a colleague he'd been having an affair with. To cut a long story short he's still with her and I know it's not long until he wants to introduce her to DD6. I'm not sure how DD will react as she's still fairly unsettled about the whole separation but sees her dad frequently and seems to be okay as long as her routine with him isn't disrupted etc. I've done all I can so far to protect her from the situation and she isn't aware that daddy has a gf at the moment.
However, when stbxh was having the affair, him and the ow took DD (then 5) on a date with them. I am concerned that dd who has a memory like an elephant and is very astute will remember her and start to ask questions. After the date she came home saying 'was that your girlfriend daddy?'!! Cue lots of laughing and denial from him at the time
So my question is this - if when she meets her she recognises her and asks me questions as to 'was she daddy's gf then' or 'is she the reason you and daddy aren't together' then what should I do? My instinct is to lie and protect her but I don't want her to cotton on as she gets older and feel like she can't trust me to tell her the truth
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Notnastypasty · 11/11/2014 11:33
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