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Birthday Party Nightmare

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mummymummymillionmillion Mon 10-Nov-14 08:02:08

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Vivacia Mon 10-Nov-14 08:05:08

If your son's 45 that's probably ok. If he's 4 or 5, probably not.

Ragwort Mon 10-Nov-14 08:06:22

50 shock !!

Do you live in a mansion?

What happens if they all suddenly reply saying 'yes please we will be coming'. And what are you actually going to do on the day - have a bouncer on the door?

No idea what you can do ........... but good luck grin.

mummymummymillionmillion Mon 10-Nov-14 08:06:41

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26Point2Miles Mon 10-Nov-14 08:07:27

No entry? That bit sounds really off. It's a kids party!

Altinkum Mon 10-Nov-14 08:07:29

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flowery Mon 10-Nov-14 08:10:17

Good grief!

We invited 32 to DS2s party which was yesterday. By 5 days before, only half had responded. I sent in reminder slips to school, then a few more trickled in, including some the day before and on the day. We ended up with 26 children, including 2 who just turned up without having responded at all.

We hired a hall rather than having it at home. Our house isn't tiny but 30 4 year olds running round it would be hell on earth.

Walkacrossthesand Mon 10-Nov-14 08:10:31

A lesson learned from party throwing (for adults & children alike) is that some people are simpky hopeless at RSVPing - they just turn up anyway. Given that they ignore the 'please RSVP' on the invite, I wouldn't hold out much hope of them taking any notice of a followup note, so I wouldn't bother. You must have a big house, and be very brave to have 50 children coming in November!

flowery Mon 10-Nov-14 08:10:52

I can't imagine turning an excited child away at the door of a party because their parents are a bit rubbish.

Coconutty Mon 10-Nov-14 08:11:51

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YonicScrewdriver Mon 10-Nov-14 08:12:29

"If you have not done so already please can you confirm whether you will be attending xxx Party by Wednesday. We need to finalise the numbers. If we don't hear from you by then, I will assume you are not coming and pass on your invite to another child Please text or e-mail xxx on xxx"

At 4, I would expect many parents to stay - do you have room??!!

mummymummymillionmillion Mon 10-Nov-14 08:14:27

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DPotter Mon 10-Nov-14 08:15:03

I think you need to get a hall and pull in extra help - and fast !
I don't even know 50 children...............

mummymummymillionmillion Mon 10-Nov-14 08:15:59

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DPotter Mon 10-Nov-14 08:16:21

sorry cross thread.

bridgetsmummy Mon 10-Nov-14 08:16:46

Are you crazy? 50kids???
You're off your head woman!
You will learn from this experience, most people don't RSVP kids parties unless it's a no! Most people IME just turn up

Cop yourself on next year and don't invite so many. A 4 year old can't possibly have 50 close friends not to mention the parents who will probably stay

mummymummymillionmillion Mon 10-Nov-14 08:17:41

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Coconutty Mon 10-Nov-14 08:17:52

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anotherdayanothersquabble Mon 10-Nov-14 08:22:31

Don't say 'we are tight on space' or 'no reply, no entry'. You invited these people, don't make them feel unwelcome, at the age of 4, you don't know which of these people are going to become close friends in the future. But you could send a 'Wanting to finalise numbers, could you let me know if you are coming' note.

mummymummymillionmillion Mon 10-Nov-14 08:25:41

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mameulah Mon 10-Nov-14 08:27:25

Don't write that message, people will be talking about it for years. I would plan for the maximum and just get through it. If it is in your house pray for good weather and let them run around. Turn it into a giant play date so there is no pressure to provide organised games. Except a couple of easily run big games like 'corners' or 'musical statues. Buy heaps of food you know your family will eventually eat anyway, frozen things , sausage rolls, vegetable spring rolls, pre cut carrot sticks that you can bung in the freezer and make soup with , eventually (whenever you get your energy back!) grin instead of fun size sweets hand out tins of sweetie, I think they are on offer 2 for £7 at Morrisons just now, then you can re gift them at Christmas for the rest of your life! If you haven't already specified an end time then just start obviously tidying up after two hours. For the party bag have a lucky dip type thing. 80 bits of crap in one bag, 80 fun size sweeties in another and 80 balloons.

Make sure anything you care about is hidden before the party starts. Have carpet cleaner on stand by. Make it clear to your kids what rooms are out of bounds before anyone gets there. Stick a smile on your face when the first guest gets there, don't complain about any of the children's behaviour or make comment on it.

Don't apologise about the size of the party to any of the parents, be happy and jolly at all times. Make sure there is wine in the fridge for when they have all gone home .

Good luck!

mummymummymillionmillion Mon 10-Nov-14 08:31:05

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LocalEditorWiganandSalford Mon 10-Nov-14 08:34:27

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mameulah Mon 10-Nov-14 08:48:36

I am a teacher and have worked a lot with children aged 4. DO NOT write that note. Very sorry to hear you were wendied, totally understand why you have organised such a big gathering now. Do you have a partner around to help you get through this? The guests adults will feed off the vibe you give. Be delighted about everything!!! If you don't have a partner get a close friend to be there on your side so you feel more confident with your back up. If you have an enclosed outside space and you do end up with loads of kids then let them run around, unless there is torrential rain. A happy, jolly 'but they were having such a good time' to any adult that makes a disapproving comment. Or 'I did suggest they come in but they were too excited to notice!' (In that happy jolly way) And you can have suggested it in such a casual way that the kids don't feel obligated to listen.

Be strict about numbers on the Bouncy Castle. And have an adult there supervising the queue. Keep the queue occupied by having sweeties to dish out, or loads of grapes or something. People love bitching about an unsafe bouncy castle.

Don't blow up the party bag balloons.

You don't sound like money is an issue but your son is going to get millions of presents. If possible hide the ones that are duplicates or not his thing and regift them.

Nominate a friend you trust to take a register of who actually turns up so you know who to send thank you notes to. And make sure you do send thank you notes promptly. A generic one with a photo of your child on it would be perfect. You could even make it up now and download the photo after the party .

Strictly no bitching to anyone about the RSVP thing. And don't blow up the balloons for the party bags. Use over sized gift bags for the lucky dip. And don't allow the kids to hover for ages over what they are going to pick. Call it the three second dipper or something, '3, 2, 1! Pick!!! Hurray!!! Next !!!' With that smiley jolly face!!!

It will be great! Your son will live it!

mameulah Mon 10-Nov-14 08:51:33

Love it, not live.

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