Hi,
I am in the process of trying to sell my house.
The sale is inevitable as ex h been mean with money, wants a big slice of the equity, won't pay mortgage has stopped paying maintenance etc etc.
Initially i had borrowed money hoping to struggle on until eldest at uni and middle and youngest left school.
Now I am close in arrears that is no longer an option.
On top of all this ex lives around the corner with ow making happy families with her dcs and ignoring mine.
Now I really cannot wait to move. I hate living here.
It is a small community where everybody knows everyone else's business.
I have had no dignity throughout my divorce as everyone knows that ex was cheating on me apparently the only person not to know was me.
Luckily last year I met a great new man. We have been together over 12 months and get on fabulously.
Now I have began the process of looking for somewhere to live and we have discussed living together which obviously makes it economically viable.
If I didn't have the dcs I would not hesitate.
We both want to live in an area about 15 mins drive away from where I am now.
Problem is the kids don't want to go.
They want to stay in the suffocating in village in which we live now, except for dd1 who cannot wait to leave and will be at uni this time next year.
I have explained to the dcs that if it was feasible then I would have waited a couple of years. Dcs is in year 11 dd2 year 8.
As an aside when I was young my mum asked me( if that is the right word!) what I thought of moving to her partners house with his dcs and the getting married.
I kicked off big time and they lived apart and when I was an adult split up although my mum has only ever spoken fondly of him.
Looking back, and this was a long time before my situation, I know that I was wrong and I would have had a much better life if mum had married him.
Buying a house alone is out of the question and houses are hard to sell where I am at the minute and rent is high.
Leaving near my ex has caused me severe anxiety and I want to move where I can start a fresh.
Your thoughts would be appreciated.
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Eustasiavye · 09/11/2014 20:16
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