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Employee's DP seems rather odd?

(6 Posts)
queenofthepirates Sat 08-Nov-14 19:55:41

Hoping this is the right area for this one, forgive me if it's not....

I have several employees, one of whom suffers with a lack of confidence in some work based circumstances. I like her very much and have been working with her to try and build her confidence so I don't lose her. She has confided that her exDH was abusive. She's now with a new DP and I am on nodding terms with and she is very happy with him.

Last night, out of the blue, I received a horrible email from the DP, accusing me of all sorts of nefarious behaviour, of manipulating and bullying her at work, none of which are remotely true. I left it a few hours, texted her and asked her if she was aware of the email (she wasn't). The DP has since emailed an apology of sorts.

Aside from the inappropriateness of the approach, is this just an over protective partner or something more sinister? I am a little concerned for her and although we do have professional boundaries to observe, we're a small company and I am concerned about her.

UptheChimney Sat 08-Nov-14 20:07:29

Setting aside your admirable concern and care for your collesague, that email is harassment. Of course, you're keeping a copy, and in hard copy.

NosyRosie Sat 08-Nov-14 20:11:46

Bloody hell I'd definitely be concerned about her. I'd suggest just keeping a very close eye on her and noting any particular changes in habit or behaviour.

SavoyCabbage Sat 08-Nov-14 20:15:16

I would print it out and file it away just in case. And I would tell her that you are there if she needs you. Hopefully she might talk to you when she sees you in 'real life'.

flapjackattack Sat 08-Nov-14 20:49:21

My exH (very controlling) once emailed a previous manager. Twisting things I'd mentioned etc. So, for me, alarm bells would be going off everywhere.
You shouldn't be subjected to that sort of pressure. sad

queenofthepirates Sat 08-Nov-14 21:20:19

Thanks everyone, you've confirmed my sentiments. I'll try and gently keep an eye on her.

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