Okay, first time I've been on here for well over a year but this has had me twisting and turning in the wind for too long and advice on here has always been welcomed...
So, I have a friend, a good friend or so I thought, met through work and even after I'd left we'd still chat at least once a week and meet up. Then, just after my mum died in March of this year, it suddenly stopped. I would initiate contact only to be fobbed off with a "we must catch up". I've now not spoken to her or contacted her in a couple of months.
Now I'm prepared to let the friendship die off, I had thought her better than to do this, I see her like FB posts from mutual friends although she isn't a big FB user, but I want to know why. A horrible feeling is that it might have something to do with being on opposite sides of the indyref, yet I have friends on both sides, some of who were very fervent in their beliefs against mine and we have not let it get to us.
I am swithering on whether or not to send an email, not challenging or arguing but simply asking why and saying 'bye. Should I?
In the past I wouldn't have bothered but since getting ME a few years ago I have become a bit reclusive and I know it's not good. Last year she was diagnosed as having celiac (sp?) disease and we had been kind of supporting each other and taking our minds off it. I had also done a lot of free work editing her website content and it does tick me off that if I ever needed references I couldn't ask her although that's not why I did it I'm thinking of it now for sure.
Thanks in advance, especially for wading through this wordy post.
I don't think it's coincidence that the contact changed after ur mum died. Many can't deal with that kind of thing but she won't tell you that. Sadly I think you have to move on and make other friends, I can't see any benefit in asking her why. If you feel a need to make contact then I would just send her a brief message to say you haven't seen her in ages, miss her company, and invite her for a coffee. If she ducks out of it then you know it's not worth pursuing.