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Something to celebrate

(7 Posts)
heyday Fri 07-Nov-14 22:33:45

Today is my birthday. To be honest I don't usually really bother about my own birthday much at all. However, this year it feels so different.
Six months ago my daughter met a man who turned about to be a monster. Constant threats of violence, guns, hitmen etc etc. loads of stuff smashed up and my terrified family in tatters.
The past couple of weeks has seen us free of him, mainly due to numerous police visits, and when I woke up today I just wanted to celebrate the fact that I have emotionally and mentally survived the horrors and fear of the past few months.
It's been an ok birthday. No great excitement. Just a few kind birthday wishes from friends and a couple a lovely presents but the greatest gift of all today has been to just feel safe and to know that, for today at least, my family is safe and that really feels like something rather overwhelming to celebrate.
We live one day at a time now, under the constant shadow that he may turn up and wreck our lives again. But somehow I have to try and keep some glimmer of hope in my heart of better days ahead.
So to all of you who are experiencing domestic abuse/violence or other major challenges in life I can only hope that you will find peace and security in your life again as living in fear in your own home is quite simply terrifying.

BonaDea Fri 07-Nov-14 22:36:48

Happy Birthday!! And here's hoping you're all on an upward trajectory now you have ridden yourselves of the horrible man you describe. Good luck and many happy returns!

heyday Fri 07-Nov-14 22:46:06

Thank you Bona.

dadwood Fri 07-Nov-14 22:51:21

Happy Birthday! Well done!

Notmeagain1 Sat 08-Nov-14 00:52:59

Happy Birthday! Well done for you and your daughter. I hope the next year is violence free and you are able to enjoy life without constantly looking over your shoulder.

I hope you and your daughter aregetting counseling to help rid you of the terrifying memories of the six months of hell you have endured. Good luck!cakeflowers

heyday Sat 08-Nov-14 08:42:34

Thank you Notmeagain. I started councelling about 3 weeks ago as I have been very traumatised by recent events and genuinely feared for my life at times. I grew up in a very violent home due to my dads alcoholism and a lot of the fear of that period of my life has been stirred up again. My daughter is trying to rebuild her life and indeed we are working on our relationship as initially she stood by this man regardless of the threats he made and her lies caused a lot of damage. She is young and we all make mistakes and because of that I want to work on healing my relationship with her again.
It's amazing how one person can totally wreck so many peoples' lives.
Onwards and upwards now hopefully.

NoMarymary Sat 08-Nov-14 09:30:36

We'll done for coming through this ordeal. I hope you have a safe and happy birthday.

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