I'm not sure how I feel about this, so I wondered if writing it down might clarify things in my own head. Apologies if it's long....and it'll probably be boring.
Dp is a manager in a large company, he has been there for several years. There is an admin assistant who works there too, who is becoming a little over friendly I think.
We were at a big party a while back - to which some of the people from dps work were also invited, admin amongst them. Alcohol was consumed - too much in the case of dsd, who got a bit tearful and teenage drama-ey, and so I went with her to the loo to tidy her up, and sort her out. Admin elbowed her way into loo, and commented on the situation, then later apparently told dp that I had been really mean to dsd. Neither dsd or I, thought that I had been mean, she went off to enjoy party with her friends and gave me a hug - all witnessed by admin.
She also told dp that I had been bitching about other people at the party (not true), and that "I didn't seem to have a good word to say about anyone".
Dp asked me about this in quite a confrontational way and we ended up arguing, and I went home.
We had a long talk about it the next day, he apologised and I pointed out that if someone I knew who had only just met him started talking about him to me, I would stand up for him, not immediately agree and seek him out to explain the error of his ways to him!
Admin is on his Facebook - as is pretty much everyone in his office, which I think is a bad idea anyway - and has taken to commenting and liking pretty much everything he posts. If I post something and tag him in it, she will like it, without even acknowledging my existence.
She has posted remarks like "ah, you did x at the weekend like I suggested", or "I told you dsd would enjoy x".....again without even acknowledging that dp has tagged me in his post.
I'm starting to wonder if she is just friendly, (although clearly not towards me), or if she has designs on dp, or am I just being silly.
I have no reason to think that dp is interested in the slightest, and yet I still feel threatened and a bit sick.
And now that I've written it down, I sound like a daft wee girl, and I don't feel any clearer about it!
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I don't like this
Dumpylump · 06/11/2014 11:08
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