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Being called Madam, How should i take it ?

(31 Posts)
gottafindaman4yagirl Wed 05-Nov-14 22:29:31

A man i have been seeing refers to me as Madam...should I be offended, its only in texts. Anyone else been called this by a man. I am in my early thirties so not old but older than this man I'm dating. Never been called Madam before.

geezerhere Wed 05-Nov-14 22:48:58

Sounds tongue in cheek

SelfLoathing Wed 05-Nov-14 22:50:28

Maybe he's into BDSM and giving you a hint? wink

manaboutthemaison Wed 05-Nov-14 22:53:23

Or French

LouiseBrooks Wed 05-Nov-14 22:55:42

I used to go out with a Spaniard many years ago and he often called me Madam. Didn't bother me but I've never met anyone else who did it.

That's not much help I know but I thought I'd let you know you're not on your own.

honeysucklejasmine Wed 05-Nov-14 22:56:28

At a school I used to work at the kids called you sir or madam. Try being called madam by a sixth former only 4 years younger than you!

Joysmum Wed 05-Nov-14 23:05:35

Depends on the intent behind the term. There's a lot of things some see as offensive which others didn't mean to be.

gottafindaman4yagirl Wed 05-Nov-14 23:14:26

BDSM? Is that like S&M. He likes to pull hair during sex which is probably another thread.

SelfLoathing Wed 05-Nov-14 23:20:04


Bondage and Sado-Masochism
or Bondage & Discipline/Dom & Sub/Sado-Masochism depending on how you like your acronyms.

Madam is traditionally a name applied to female dominatrixes (trices?).

gottafindaman4yagirl Wed 05-Nov-14 23:25:56

self Not an area that I have explored. He's hinted at me being more domineering, think I have lived a sheltered life and need to look it up.

geezerhere Wed 05-Nov-14 23:28:43

Can you post one of his texts?

gottafindaman4yagirl Wed 05-Nov-14 23:47:26

Geezer Rather not put personal text on. I have just been use to one partner before.

JeanneDeMontbaston Wed 05-Nov-14 23:50:11

Is it not regional?

Round where I grew up (East Mids) this would be the slightly jokey I'm-pretending-to-be-posh alternative to 'missus'.

smileybadger Thu 06-Nov-14 08:28:54

my gran used to call me madam when I was in trouble..hahaha

kentishgirl Thu 06-Nov-14 09:09:10

Is he British? My ex was another nationality and his friends/family used 'Madam' as a sign of respect (and used to bow as well!). Took me a couple of months to work out they weren't just taking the piss.

bloodystupidfriend Thu 06-Nov-14 09:17:43

Madam can be taken in many ways depends on the tone. If you don't like madam tell him you've got a perfectly good name you like.

TheHermitCrab Thu 06-Nov-14 10:09:50

My other half calls me "The Dragon", think yourself lucky for such a name.. haha ;)

Selinasupreme Thu 06-Nov-14 10:45:13

My husband calls me madam when I'm in a foul mood, amongst other names that other people may think are odd, I suppose it's the way they are said, the context in which they are used and how you feel about them.

Rafflesway Thu 06-Nov-14 16:19:10

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ellengeorgia Thu 06-Nov-14 16:50:49

It's fun! don't see the problem with it...

TheHermitCrab Thu 06-Nov-14 16:53:00

Haha rafflessway brilliant.

I actually come home from work and he shouts to the cats (yes the cats) "quick, the dragon is coming, hide"

mental fool smile

nc987654321 Thu 06-Nov-14 17:10:10

Stuff like being called 'madam' put my hackles up. Not sure why hmm I recently stopped chatting to an online dating chap because he called me 'dear'. I don't know what it's supposed to mean or signify so I reject it.

Rafflesway Thu 06-Nov-14 17:53:08

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Rafflesway Thu 06-Nov-14 17:53:49

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Smukogrig Thu 06-Nov-14 21:29:51

Oh i tried to correct a colleague who wrote dear madam recently. I tried to explain but she thought i was mistaken and a bit of a pervert

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