Have NC for this as I'm so ashamed. I'll try not to make this too long.
Married 7 years, together 18 years, two very young DC. I always thought DH and I were best friends, been together since teens. He's never been affectionate unless he wants sex, which has lead to some reluctance on my part over the years, but I really put it down to it being just the way he's wired iyswim. Sex life has improved recently despite young DCs.
BUT, after I accidentally found some porn on his iPad we had it out and he promised it wasn't often and was at a time our sex life was struggling (I know, I know, blaming me!). However, on looking through all our computers, the stuff is everywhere, but he just minimises it and says it's not a problem and he's not a misogynist
I also found on the website data on his iPad that he'd accessed adultfriendfinder and webcam stuff, he refuses to admit this. He also has 2 email addresses that he constantly changes the passwords to.
I'm coming to terms with the fact that my husband is not the man I though and I can't be married to a man I don't trust and is such a misogynist. He travels for work and I just can't live with what he might be doing when he's away.
How do I start leaving this? My poor babies! I am heartbroken, but I know he won't change as he doesn't think he's done anything wrong, it's all my fault and if I put out more he wouldn't have to do it. I've tried to tell him (before I knew the extent of this) that he needs to be more emotionally available and affectionate, but he never changes.
Anyone know a good solicitor in the West Mids? We jointly own home, separate bank accounts. He won't leave so I guess I'll have to
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Porn - such a cliche!
Tuliptastic · 05/11/2014 13:18
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