DH has had a long friendship with another man who confided about 3 years ago he was unhappy with his marriage (about 20 yr). 2 children 14, 19 at time of breakup.
He and his wife are consultant doctors. He has a business and she is part time. Anyway DHs friend had a secretary who he fell in love with and (according to him) did not have sex with until he split with his wife....and there goes another flying pig, but DH believes it!
I have always liked the friend and he and secretary have just got married. Initially he felt, and expressed how bad he felt about his wife but has now taken to saying she has turned their daughter against him. DD is now 21 and a graduate and I don't believe for one minute she is not her own person. She won't meet with her dad. His DS is ok with the new couple.
I got extremely pissed with DH for condemning the ex W because she has never been anything but considerate, kind and thoughtful towards him. He house sat for them and she would leave meals prepared, sends Xmas cards and gave him a gift voucher etc. imo him commiserating about the ex W just increases the DFs belief he is the victim. To me it is victim blaming and let's the DF not take responsibility for ruining his relationship with his DD.
I have refused to go to their post wedding party and frankly am disgusted with the lot of them! Originally I felt the DF was unhappy and as you have only one life then go for it but am feeling increasing dislike for him. That's awful because he is a genuinely kind man in most ways but there have been hints of his selfishness.
What is the best way to handle this? Reason with DH or just make the subject taboo. Annoyed with DH for taking such a black and white view and we are currently very frosty!
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DH and I have fallen out over his support of his cheating friend. Wwyd?
NoMarymary · 05/11/2014 12:18
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