I know this is a really minor issue but I'm not very good at relationships and would really welcome other people's views. I've been seeing someone for 3 months. We met online and are both in our late 40s. Mostly it's been great - he's kind, caring, we get on really well, etc. We've agreed that we're in an exclusive relationship. However, there's one thing that's upsetting me but I can't work out if it's me getting upset for no reason (I do tend to get hurt by small things) or if other people would be upset by this too?
Basically, he hasn't told anyone about me at all - none of his colleagues, friends or family. No one knows I exist. Now I wouldn't expect to have met anyone he knows yet, but I don't understand why he's so secretive about it. I understand that he wouldn't want to make a big announcement (obviously) but, for example, he said some of his colleagues asked what he'd been up to this weekend and he just said "not much". (He'd spent the weekend with me). I don't understand why he couldn't just have said that he'd spent the weekend with his girlfriend.
I've mentioned him to a few friends and family members, so I suppose it seems a bit unbalanced - as if I'm happy to be open about the relationship but he's not. It's probably stupid but it's starting to really upset me. And I wonder if it would ever change - if he doesn't want to tell anyone about me now, why should it be any different in, say, six months?
I'd really appreciate any views on this, including if I'm just making an issue where there isn't one, as I think this is something I can be prone to doing.
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Am I being too sensitive about this?
Goldfish10 · 04/11/2014 15:10
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