My DH is shit at doing his share of the housework. There's no escaping or excusing it. I unwillingly, furiously, do way more washing, dishes, cooking, cleaning, home admin, DIY. He has all the "typical" excuses we have read 1000 on MN. He doesn't think to do it. He doesn't 'see' messes. He was raised by a neat-freak who spoiled her boys and they never lifted a finger around the house. (She told me this quite proudly once. The myriad of possible sarcastic replies that rose to my lips were stifled with difficulty into a jokey "Lucky me!")
We have argued, sought professional counselling, made lists, kept score, he's read (or claims to have read) Wifework, I've nagged and not-nagged but his behaviour just never changes. Or it changes for 2 days, then reverts.
Recently, I've started placing the blame with my rational, adult DH who has not lived with his mother for 20-odd years.
I'm about to tell him this is breakup-worthy shit. I'm fed up with it.
We can't afford a cleaner and really, the amount if effort required from him is minimal.
We have a 16mo DD who was recently hospitalised, I stayed overnight too. Got home the next afternoon to an absolute pig stye, when I suggested he could have done some washing or pushed the Hoover around he looked astonished at the suggestion. He'd been watching films and eating the contents of the fridge, by the evidence.
I'm not going to mitigate this rant by claiming he's a lovely, loving husband because I'm too angry. His behaviour is not the behaviour of a respectful, equal partner and I am over it.
Anyone else??
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Stopped being angry with MIL and started being angry with DH
TropicalHorse · 04/11/2014 13:51
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