I may need a hysterectomy, but we are not sure yet. My consultant wants me to consider it while we wait for test results and explore other options.
A hysterectomy would cure all my problems and end years of suffering. It would truly change my life for the better, so I am seriously considering it as a last resort.
My mum had one for the same reasons and thinks its the best thing she has ever done. I really want to discuss all my options with her, I want her advice and her experience. After my last consultation I was so happy, I had found a doctor who listened, understood and came up with a plan.
I phoned my mum to tell her I had options depending on test results and she said she would be devasted if I had a hysterectomy. That was over a month ago and I have stopped bringing it up as she changes the subject. Normally she would ask about the tests, make sure I'm ok but nothing. Its like it never happened.
She told me to get a referral to a different consultant after last time and told me I shouldn't allow myself to fobbed off, that I should make sure something was done. That I shouldn't have to suffer like this. She was supportive and angry that I have been left to just get on with it.
My mum wants grandchildren, I get that I really do, but that wont happen even without a hysterectomy (for health reasons). She knows how risky a pregnancy would be for me and that I would be unlikely to be able to care for a baby for weeks if not months after the birth.
I feel like my non existant dc are more important than my health and happiness. I feel like I have disappointed her and that I am a failure. I'm having an ultrasound scan tomorrow and she doesn't know because I can't tell her and she hasn't asked. If it was anything else she would have asked and then she would call tomorrow to see how it went.
I feel like part of my foundations are gone. Dh is good but I want to discuss this with my mum
What do I do?
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My mum is making me feel like I am the biggest disappointment ever. (Long sorry)
Iwantmymum · 03/11/2014 21:14
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