Hi,dh left 4 months ago,he is in a relationship with OW ,things were amicable to begin with,but have taken a turn for the worst over lies about OW,denial of a realtionship etc.
Ok,so i've had two meeting with solicitor,he is very keen for us to try the collaborative law process,which is basically me,Dh,and our solicitors in meetings together trying to sort out a way forward financially,the kids,house etc.Has anyone been through this process?
My solicitor seems to think its a more amicable and fair way to do things,But I'm not sure dh deserves to be treated fairly! Dh is the last person I want to sit in a room with after how he has treated myself and dcs.
I had said I'm willing to conider this approach as I really want our dc to hopefully have two parents who can try and work together,its just so hard as I despise the man at the moment.
I keep reading that you need to get a really tough solicitor in these situations,is this softly softly approach going to get me this best possible outcome?
Dh has really walked all over me,left me out of the blue with 3 kids,his financial proposal is a joke,and he continues to lie through his teeth.
If he doesn't agree to collaboration,we just have to stick to traditional letter back and forth through solicitors,which would at least mean I wouldn't have to see him.
I also feel I could stand up to him more,if that makes sense,I worry I will back down when in a room with him,distance seems to make me more detached,Any advice?
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lilaloves · 03/11/2014 10:22
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