I have started seeing a guy who said he smoked occasionally when out socialising or drinking. However six weeks on I find he is a regular smoker and I am finding it unpleasant.
When we went to a restaurant recently he left the table twice during the meal to go outside to smoke and when he called at my home he kept making excuses to go in the kitchen eg get water and then went outside to smoke. I didn't think I would mind if he smoked outside occasionally but the smell on him and in my home in the morning was awful. After a cigarette, if he holds my hand or kisses me it reeks. I can smell it on my hair and my clothes.
As much as the smell, the other thing that bothers me is that he seems agitated and restless as if he is constantly itching for the next smoke so it's not particularly relaxing to be in his company.
In all other ways, he is great but I am thinking is this a non-starter? I am also worried about telling him it bothers me but feel I should tell the truth.
(I also think he drinks too much for me/my lifestyle but it's the smoking that's the real bugbear.)
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Could you go out with a smoker if you were a non-smoker yourself?
Blowmeonelastkiss · 03/11/2014 08:46
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