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Would you ever be able to forgive

(189 Posts)
TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 20:40:51

a One night stand?

TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 20:41:26

If your partner had a one night stand.

Haggisfish Sun 02-Nov-14 20:42:43

Potentially, yes. I could forgive it more easily than a protracted emotional affair.

FrauHelga Sun 02-Nov-14 20:43:33

Depends. Long term relationship, where we were exclusive? Not a bloody chance.

FWB or a fuckbuddy, meh, that goes with the territory.

TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 20:44:37

In a long term relationship on a drunken night out..

headlesslambrini Sun 02-Nov-14 20:45:17

No that would be a deal breaker for me.

TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 20:45:19

By forgive I mean stay with them.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 02-Nov-14 20:46:35

If I was in a committed long-term relationship, no I wouldn't. Being exclusive goes with the territory as far as I'm concerned. Other people can be more accepting of betrayal but I couldn't

carlsonrichards Sun 02-Nov-14 20:47:17


FolkGirl Sun 02-Nov-14 20:49:55


BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 02-Nov-14 20:51:07

"Drunken" is a very lame excuse for behaviour which is inexcusable. No-one that I've ever known has been so drunk that they're incapable of making a decision to betray a partner while still being capable of having and maintaining an erection to shag some stranger on a night out.

Forgive this and permission has been given so you could discover that it becomes the thin end of the wedge.

losthermind Sun 02-Nov-14 20:51:44

Not a chance

Redtractorwontsleep Sun 02-Nov-14 20:53:59

No way

Quitelikely Sun 02-Nov-14 20:55:42

Yes if married with kids and otherwise all was well.

If in a relationship with no commitments then I would boot him to the kerb.

TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 20:56:34

Theres no way to get over that is there.

inlectorecumbit Sun 02-Nov-14 20:56:52

no way sad

Fairenuff Sun 02-Nov-14 20:57:59

Why do you ask OP?

SleepyMcgee Sun 02-Nov-14 20:58:05

Definitely no way wouldn't trust the bugger ever again

Ticktockblock Sun 02-Nov-14 20:58:35


CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 02-Nov-14 20:59:04

The trouble with the 'I was drunk' excuse is that it is extremely easy to get drunk.... and do it all over again. What kills relationships is not infidelity but loss of trust. So whether it's a one night stand or a fifteen year affair, I don't think it really matters if the trust is gone.

TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 21:00:09

He cheated on me a few weeks ago.
I found out. I said I will try to make it work as long as he can regain trust, prove he actually cares about me. But I don't think that will work and thats hurting because I love him but he effed up our future and plans.

laurentperrier Sun 02-Nov-14 21:00:12

No. It's completely unforgivable in my opinion.
Are you ok op?

TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 21:01:27

The I was drunk has turned into he wont go out clubbing until I can trust again and when he does he wont drink to that point.
I feel let down as I don't have any family its just him.

stereostar Sun 02-Nov-14 21:01:34


TheNewClassic Sun 02-Nov-14 21:01:56

I am devastated but I don't know what to do sad sad

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