I know someone who has learning disabilities and though she lives independently and holds down a job she is very, very childlike and easily taken advantage of.
She has been having a sexual relationship with a man who is getting married to someone else soon. It is clear that he is using her for sex but she thinks it's love and he's only marrying someone else to make his parents happy and given a choice he would be with her.
She is upset at the moment because she has seen pictures mutual friends have put up of his stag do where he is wearing a t-shirt with a photo of his future wife on it. She is upset that he is wearing a photo of his future wife and she is upset about the colour of the top because it doesn't suit him and is running around in circles fretting about why he would wear that colour. She is also upset that people are posting photos of her lovers future wifes' stag do.
I told her that all of this is natural and is to be expected of two people who are getting married and she shouldn't be sleeping with someone about to be married but she has denied they're in a relationship as they haven't had sex in three weeks.
She told someone we both know of how confused and upset she is by all of this and that person told her if she had a problem she should go to the wedding or the reception and tell everyone what her and the groom have been getting up to!!
She won't listen to reason, she can't comprehend what is happening, and I fear if she listens to that persons advice she is going to cause an emotional car crash at the wedding and no one she knows in this city will ever talk to her again
she's so vulnerable and can't grasp the situation she is in and what is happening
I feel like I should do something to protect her but I don't know what
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perfectpeach · 02/11/2014 09:45
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