I recently discovered that I am in an abusive relationship, that my parents are abusive, and that this has probably contributed to the depression and self hatred that I have felt for most of my life. It was a shock I had no idea as always blamed myself.
I have a 11 month old ds, and have recently reluctantly gone back to work full time to a new boss who is a nightmare. Hearing lots of stories from others I work with about her, that she is a demanding princess. The workload is ridiculous and really stressful. We moved house a year ago and I have had pnd. The ADs do help but sometimes I feel like it's all too much.
I am still living with oh, he refuses to move out and I am so exhausted its not true. Don't have any family/friends nearby to help as I always isolate myself when things are bad I can't help it.
I have so many plans about making things better. I want to loose weight, start a business, find a part time job, be independent of oh, become more organised. Maybe have the chance to meet someone who treats me right one day, so that ds will grow up in a happy home environment. Sometimes I feel fired up about this and have grand plans. But at the weekends I am like a zombie eating lots of crap, feeling fat, and just trying to get through the day. I can't pull myself together. And I feel overwhelmed by all the washing/ housework that needs doing.
I am so unhappy.
I am tempted to do something desperate. Thinking of handing my notice in on Monday and just moving out of the house to my parents or something. But even that is like out of the frying pan into the fire.
Just can't see any light right now.
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fishfingersandwiches · 01/11/2014 21:30
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