Ideally of course neither. But if it was between the two, what is less damaging for them to see?
So as not to drip feed, I'm often accused of being a martyr by my DH (I don't agree), whereas he acknowledges he is very selfish. His theory is that it's better to get what you want in life no matter who you upset along the way. My theory isn't quite the same.
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Selfish vs martyr - which is a better role model for children?
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