I'm keeping this vague because I'm paranoid about someone working out who this is about. I've name-changed too.
Basically, someone in my husband's family is just far too tactile with me. Normally it's just a bit annoying and doesn't bother me too much, but recently it has become a bit more. He has always given me very firm hugs, put his hands on my shoulders and waist when 'guiding' me etc. For example, if I show him the time on my watch he will hold my arm to look at the watch. Normal physical contact for some people I guess, but feels a bit weird to me as I don't like anyone to touch me except my husband and family (except hugging friends on greeting etc)
But the other day it went a bit further. Again, keeping it vague, under the excuse of showing me how something works he touched my legs. I am sure he meant it innocently - he has never been inappropriate and is really not that sort of person - but it felt far too intimate just made me want to cry. I was really not happy with it. Other people were there at the time and don't think they noticed anything - as I say, it probably didn't look that dodgy but I know it was a totally unnecessary thing to do.
There is no way to confront or discuss this. I can't mention it to my husband, as it would look like I was making some kind of accusation. I am just not happy with this level of physical contact.
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thisisnotmyusername · 01/11/2014 16:58
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