Hiya. I'm new to this site and new to pregnancy so please be kind :) Two years ago my husband and I started trying for a baby. After a year of nothing happening we went to the doctors and started going down the route of fertility tests etc. But during this past year things started going a bit wrong. I have anxiety problems and decided this was not a good time to be having a baby, in fact I did a complete U-turn. I was also made redundant from work, so had no job for the first time in my life. Since then, more and more time I have spent feeling lonely and isolated, completely dependent on my husband for everything (and I am used to being career focused & independent). I have tried to fill the gaps by sometimes working voluntarily with a mutual friend of ours, something I really enjoy. It's nice to feel needed and useful again. Unfortunately over time I have developed feelings for him, like a teenage crush. Nothing has happened at all with this man. To be honest I have liked him for a long time, even before I was made redundant. However, I love my husband and decided I wanted to stop this, putting it down to my loneliness and anxiety, so I started to see a counsellor, but it has not worked. A few weeks ago I was at the point of being decisive, thinking about the future, considering taking a break from my relationship with my husband to see if I could decide what I wanted for once and for all. Unfortunately I have now discovered I'm pregnant, completely naturally, unplanned and unexpected. I feel wretched as I don't know what to do - all possible outcomes seem unbearable. My husband, who is a kind and caring man, has said he is supportive of whatever I decide. He knows we have relationship problems. I know he is over the moon about me being pregnant though. I've avoided facing up to this for now but it can't go on for ever. Any advice?
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