I got pregnant unplanned and to start with BF didn't want the baby! After he came round to the idea he was really excited but from the day I got pregnant the sex totally stopped! He said it just didn't feel right knowing his baby was in there!
It wasn't just sex pretty much any intimacy including kissing and cuddling stopped as well, he doesn't find any part of pregnancy attractive!
So know the baby is here I'm 100% back to my pre pregnancy size and shape and I'm more than ready to have sex again and for the past 3 weeks have been hoping to but every time he just says he is to tired etc!
It kinda came to a head last week and I got upset and asked him if it's me he is just not attracted to and he assured me it wasn't so last night he planned a nice quite evening for us and cooked!
Before dinner we started kissing and a little foreplay begun but he didn't get hard and after only about 2 mins said the baby (who was sleeping) was looking at him and it wasn't right, so said don't worry we will have dinner first!
So evening goes on and we just sit on the sofa and I get the vibe that sex is bid off the cards! So cons midnight we go off to bed!
When we get into bed he says "oh I came over all tired after dinner sorry about that" again I get upset and ask him what's really going on, as it's now been a year we haven't had sex for and again I get upset and cry and he promises me it's him just being lazy, and that he loves me and finds me attractive and he is not interested in anyone else but the pressure is getting to him!
So anyone got any ideas what's really going on! I told him when I was pregnant that the lack of intimacy was going to be rally hard to get back after baby came and he assured me wouldn't but he just appears to have no sexual interest in me at all!
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BF won't have sex with me.... Getting me down
Anyone1234 · 28/10/2014 14:44
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