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Does chemistry have to be mutual?

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superstarheartbreaker · 21/10/2014 14:11

What about those cases where someone likes someone but it is not reciprocated. How is chemistry defined and it is relative to looks? Thoughts please?

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firesidechat · 21/10/2014 14:14

Not sure I believe much in chemistry as a basis for a long lasting relationship.

Not sure that I believe in chemistry either. Lets call it attraction.

If it does exist I don't think it's about looks.

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superstarheartbreaker · 21/10/2014 14:21

I agree it's not about looks but more often than not I go for handsome.

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Chaseface · 21/10/2014 14:36

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 21/10/2014 14:39

Do you mean can people have a relationship with someone they're not attracted to?
Not a good idea.

Do you mean can people fancy people who aren't conventionally good-looking?
Er. Yes.

Chemistry is attraction between people, No?

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Joysmum · 21/10/2014 14:47

DH fell for me from the start, I didn't fancy him or see him as anything other than one of my best friends. It took 5 years of us being close friends before he tried it on, if he'd waited for me to he'd still be waiting! After that, I was smitten, it never crossed my mind to see him differently.

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bellarations · 21/10/2014 14:49

From my own experience where "chemistry" was very very strong our relationship is blossoming still after 20 years.
There was a short relationship with someone who was nice, kind but no chemistry.... Like I said, it was a short relationship, no matter how much you want to be with a person, if there is no attraction (chemistry???) I don't believe it will work.

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yougotafriend · 21/10/2014 14:50

I totally believe in chemistry and "yes" it has to be mutual. It is about the chemical balance in one body reacting to the chemical balance in someone elses - on some animalistic primal level meaning the 2 people would make strong healthy offspring together - it can give you a warm and fuzzy feeling and be quite strong at times, but it's not a good basis for a lasting relationship and totally not based on appearance IMO

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ouryve · 21/10/2014 14:50

I can't see how a relationships would work unless the chemistry, or rather, attraction went both ways.

If it's all one way, than that's an infatuation, not a relationship.