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steelchic Sun 19-Oct-14 23:34:07

Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

steelchic Sun 19-Oct-14 23:38:26

wow, HISSY 90 mins ....sounds promising, are you going to meet up soon smile

geordietoyboy Mon 20-Oct-14 04:17:06

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IMNOTYOURBABES Mon 20-Oct-14 08:29:23

Sounds good hissy hope he doesn't have an imaginary bmw or cat wink

jesy Mon 20-Oct-14 09:21:57

Ok , been chatting to a man off pof , we arranged a date I gave him my number but he not texted ?

IMNOTYOURBABES Mon 20-Oct-14 09:33:15

When did you arrange the date for jesy ?

Blossomflowers Mon 20-Oct-14 09:34:05

Hi all, hope the weekend was good. Have been keeping a low profile all week because of my teeth. Saw X everyday last week, he came around did a few chores and nice pub lunch, back home for wine and sunday papers. Then come end of evening up he jumps and say he is going, I could be a complete stranger. This is a man I have lived with for 20 years. This is really hampering my chances of moving.
Might go out with Mr Fireman if I can get over teeth thing. Mr Italian court case went very badly, had a few messages over the weekend, get the feeling he is very low, not sure I need dragging down any further

IMNOTYOURBABES Mon 20-Oct-14 09:37:18

Have just sent thanks but no thanks to y'days lunch date. That's a relief!!!!!
Back to it! I think I'm growing a thicker skin smile

IMNOTYOURBABES Mon 20-Oct-14 09:41:02

blossom doesn't sound like contact with ex is doing you any good. I have an ex who ia still in my life, but ignoring him at mo ...
How are your teeth??

jesy Mon 20-Oct-14 09:52:57

It's not till Sat and no particulars been sorted but he still messaging me on pof

Do you think he married

IMNOTYOURBABES Mon 20-Oct-14 10:02:58

Not, necessarily, * jest* why, what makes you suspect he is married?
I quite often exchange mob no & still message through pof.

IMNOTYOURBABES Mon 20-Oct-14 10:03:31

Sorry jesy

Blossomflowers Mon 20-Oct-14 10:04:22

imno I know it is so hard to go NC. I must move on he does not want us to be tog but happy to eat here here everyday because I invite him like a fool. Teeth a bit rubbish but at least little less painful. Have dentist on Wend.
jesy Why do you think he is married? This is a new one I presume, not met yet?

IMNOTYOURBABES Mon 20-Oct-14 10:04:32

Chill, Saturday is AGES away x

steelchic Mon 20-Oct-14 10:40:13

Blossom, it's hard with ex's when they have been in your life for such a long time. When my exh cheated and left for OW ( we had agreed to try again but then she announced she was pregnant). At first he was over here a lot for movie nights with me and kids. He used to take our son to football Sat & Sun then come here for breakfast. When I found out about OW being pregnant it gave me the kick up the backside to stop all the cosy family meals etc. he was having the best of both worlds. I still have feelings for him we were together best part of 20 years you can't just turn the feelings off. We still have to have contact with each other. Sometimes I find it difficult esp if we have to do joint stuff with kids.i find it really difficult when he is nice to me or shows concern if I'm ill or upset about something.
My oldest daughter ( he is like a dad to her) got engaged recently. He found it difficult got upset at the end of the party. I think he realises what he's lost sometimes. I wish we could turn the clock back but we can't
Sorry enough of my story, but what I'm trying to say is although it's hard it is better to stop the meals etc.
Go for it with Mr Fireman x

jesy Mon 20-Oct-14 10:43:45

I'm not sure
Maybe it's coz he older I don't know guess I'm being wAry

Blossomflowers Mon 20-Oct-14 10:54:07

steelThere is no one else involved in our case, no OW, so I think in some ways it makes it harder to go NC. He obviously enjoys my company but like you I think he is getting to best of both worlds and this stopping me moving on. Mr Fireman does sound lovely and does not appear to have so many issues as MR Italian whose hatred for his X is all consuming.

steelchic Mon 20-Oct-14 11:21:25

What have you got to lose Blossom, I like the sound of Mr Fireman, maybe Mr Italian has too many issues, and the way he feels about his x could impact on your relationship. I hope your mouths a bit better

Blossomflowers Mon 20-Oct-14 11:35:25

Thanks steel I will meet up with him this week, but a little self conscious about teeth. I not missing any so that is good but they are all askew. Trouble think it could take some time to sort out, should I put my like on hold.

steelchic Mon 20-Oct-14 11:40:50

No Blossom, don't put him off, just explain to him what happened. If you like each other I'm sure it won't matter. Also it probably doesn't look as bad as you think. If you put him off he might think you're not interested. Strike while the irons hot !

jesy Mon 20-Oct-14 12:31:28

I did it deleted his number , I saw them together today they look really happy sent him a text saying u loom g
Happy but I need to move on see you around x
Reply was I'm here if you need me it yep I'm happy x

Bit tearful but life goes on lol
In fact offer of three dates so maybe I'm not a dragon xxxxx

Wrapdress Mon 20-Oct-14 12:40:07

Hi all! I finally joined Match Sunday night as a paying member. Very excited! My friend warned me I would be bombarded with men who send "cut and paste" emails to all the "new" people. That has proven to be true. About 30 so far, most not local. I wonder when that will die down?

SublimeCorpse Mon 20-Oct-14 13:03:17

So MrShag&Ignore has just messaged me. I need to ignore him, I know I do. Everything he said to me was rubbish, lies.

He's still online looking for the next woman, he's updated his profile with pictures that he sent to me.

After being with the same person for 12 years I was flattered by the attention he gave me and the lovely things he said. I was stupid and it's been a horrible weekend dealing with the realisation that I was so easily sucked I and spat out.

I don't want to get hurt again, I don't want to allow myself to get taken for a fool.

I want to message him really badly. I want to see him again, but I don't want to feel like this again.

Please help me sit on my hands.

neverletgojack Mon 20-Oct-14 13:06:21

newbie to dating thread * waves *

been single for over a year, and while I enjoy being single, it would be nice to go on a few dates!

Where do you start when you have 2 young children & don't get out too often to bars etc...

(and thanks whoever directed me over here from my threadgrin )

SublimeCorpse Mon 20-Oct-14 13:08:28

Well done wrapdress! smile

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