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New name, new game, less stress, more progress! (Thanks to Rottie!)

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thenamehaschanged Sun 19-Oct-14 18:40:52

Here goes - thread 4 and definitely the last one now, sheesh!!

Who knew instigating divorce could be so bloody long winded!!

My last thread was 'It isn't Work Stress, it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H!'

Rottweiler solicitor (Rottie) and a non molestation order on Tuesday yippee!!

FunkyBoldRibena Sun 19-Oct-14 18:42:41

Nice title grin

thenamehaschanged Sun 19-Oct-14 18:51:20


BakerStreetSaxRift Sun 19-Oct-14 18:52:07

Great thread title , Name. Good luck on Tuesday!

mathanxiety Sun 19-Oct-14 18:57:46

Just read the remark about your 'hidden horseshoe'.

He is feeling mighty sorry for himself, and is telling you he is the victim here. Anything he does to you is therefore self defence.

Be careful.

Annarose2014 Sun 19-Oct-14 19:02:33

So how is he reading your mood at the moment? How does he think you're doing?

I know you told him Solr 1 was on holiday till the 13th but what does he think is happening with the divorce petition now? What stage does he think you're both at?

I imagine you're being pretty meek and just nodding and agreeing with all his bollocks - but does he think this is characteristic from you or does he think its wierd?

auntpetunia Sun 19-Oct-14 19:03:33

Be very careful! He's making himself out to be some sort of victim with all the comments about you having a horseshoe and dirty tactics. (From your old thread).

Loving the thread title btw. Only 48 hrs to go.

mathanxiety Sun 19-Oct-14 19:10:00

And I am not sure the choice of Sunday morning viewing is random.

There is a lot of tension, violence, hunting down and double crossing in the plot, danger from all angles, nobody knows who is allied with whom.

Darkesteyes Sun 19-Oct-14 19:11:01

Great thread title name. i agree that hes trying to paint himself as the victim.

i agree with math thanks

thenamehaschanged Sun 19-Oct-14 19:14:10

Yes being as careful as I can.

Anna, during the horse shoe rant he told me I have an evil, cheating face and that I've been loading myself up with Wimmins rights books such as this Freedom Programme book and happily absorbing myself in full 'victim' mode - and actually I'm the one with the horse shoe glove, I'm the covert assassin.

So I would have said he was reading me negatively from that, but then the whole cop a feel thing and has just there been cracking some fuck knows!!

Thank you Mathanxiety and Petunia I'm doing my best!

Darkesteyes Sun 19-Oct-14 19:17:46

Hes a narcissitic twisted fucker and he KNOWS IT. If he really believed any of the shit he was spouting he wouldnt be cracking jokes afterwards. Hes sick .

mathanxiety Sun 19-Oct-14 19:20:52

He is telling you he wants you back in full in compliance mode, available to your lord and master for sex, and he wants you to dispel any ideas you may have picked up about your individual rights. This tells you he sees sex as an entitlement and something you have no right to refuse, and that only a woman who had somehow been led astray by ridiculous 'wimmins rights' notions would have turned him down. Therefore you are wrong to turn him down. He is telling you he has a right to your body.

Annarose2014 Sun 19-Oct-14 19:22:14

An "evil, cheating face"???

Good God. What on earth was your reaction to that?

Whereisegg Sun 19-Oct-14 19:25:25

Cheers to the last thread thanks smile

mathanxiety Sun 19-Oct-14 19:30:00

Lots of close up shots of evil, cheating faces in that movie.

AnyFucker Sun 19-Oct-14 19:33:33

New "game" ?

Surely you understand by now any game playing is a complete waste of your time and energy

You are still engaging with him it seems to me, and although I applaud your progress so far it looks like you still have a long way to go

All this pom pom waving is fabulous of course, but the only way to properly disengage is to stop sharing his ridiculous soundbites on here, and get busy getting rid

No doubt my post seems like a bit of a bum note right now, but keep your eye on the outcome you want. And surely that is for anything he says or does to have absolutely no impact on you at all

YonicScrewdriver Sun 19-Oct-14 19:33:56

<waves pom poms and horseshoes>

YonicScrewdriver Sun 19-Oct-14 19:34:33

Unfortunate x-post!

thenamehaschanged Sun 19-Oct-14 19:35:39

Oh totally Darkest!!

Anna, I just kept the same face I had had during the rant, which is my evil, cheating one apparently!

Totally Mathanxiety, I see it all now! well the vast majority and lol about the film grin

Thanks Egg thanks

AnyFucker Sun 19-Oct-14 19:39:01

Yonic grin

I wish op well. I am saying this with kindness at the beginning of her new thread. Something to think about perhaps ?

As you were thanks

BeyondPreparedForHell Sun 19-Oct-14 19:47:20

AF, it wasnt name who named the thread "game", she went with a thread name suggested by someone else smile

Right, lets try this again... t minus two days (and a couple of hours) til non mol and residential and he hits the ground with a thud (hang on, cant remember, did you say she was doing a residential at the same time? Remember you posting about it, but cant remember which way...!)

NettleTea Sun 19-Oct-14 20:14:04

I can never understand why, given the shit that these fuckers give out about how useless and evil and twisted and ugly and everything everything, that they make such a hoo haa when you say 'right Im off'
Surely, if following their argument, they should be pleased to be rid of such a weight around their necks, and happy to be free to go and get a woman such as they deserve, and who are all positively throwing themselves at them all the time......

Though of course we know why, dont we?

Because the truth is that they are just nasty little slugs projecting their uselessness at their wives in a horrible abusive attempt to keep her in her place so that she doesnt leave him all aloooooooone.

rumbleinthrjungle Sun 19-Oct-14 20:40:41

Hi Name smile Found the thread!

Reading your horseshoe moment... the poor little sausage, it's a rotten world when you can't abuse your wife in peace and she doesn't even have the decency to be grateful? And not go around putting ironmongery in her mittens. Or hold something you said a whole few minutes ago against you when you fancy a bit?

Btw, has anyone yet put 'Batshit Crazy' on the list of possible diagnoses for him? Cos if not, I'll add it. <helpful>

thenamehaschanged Sun 19-Oct-14 20:59:14

Just logging in quickly while I've got the chance, which isn't easy with my big cloppy horse shoe hands grin

Thanks for the sanity shot everyone.

I'm disengaging as much as I can AF but it's bloody hard with him still here, constantly watching me and using all the tactics in the book to get me to engage. Still, eyes on the prize and all that, not long now!

Great posts nettle and rumble, the insight here is amazing thanks

Thanks Beyond and Darkest thanks

Hilarious Yonic grin

thenamehaschanged Sun 19-Oct-14 21:00:36

Sorry Beyond, yes occupation order as well as non mol!

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