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could "I've got her a ring " mean anything else

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NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 14:01:09

group of us at a friends house last night having drinks before we head out to pub

I was upstairs waiting for the loo to become free and overhead dp saying to his mate "I've got her a ring "

they seemed to be discussing my birthday which is in two weeks as they were talking about where we would go and what we would do

could I have misheard? is he going to propose? it could just be that he has got me a ring couldn't it?

now I cannot get the comment out my head and am surpisingly excited about the prospect of a proposal

however there is a definite part of me that thinks this must be something else...

Hairtodaygonetomorrow Sat 18-Oct-14 14:05:16

I once had a misunderstanding over a ring, my (now) husband comes from a different culture and rings don't mean quite the same thing as they do here. I don't know on this one- is your partner likely to propose? Would you like to get married? Are you likely to end up sobbing and shouting at him if by the end of the birthday he hasn't proposed?

Only you know the answers to these questions, or rather he does, I really don't think we are in a position to say what he's going to do.

NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 14:11:10

ok. I understand no one can say what will happen. I suppose im just putting it out there.

I am totally my own worst enemy. I need to get this out my head as there ia potential for upset isn't there.

no expectations is the best way

Welliesandpyjamas Sat 18-Oct-14 14:18:04

Rings make very special gifts. DH (many moons ago) bought me a diamond ring with his first 'real' paypacket. He has since bought me rings after having dc2 and dc3 too. They are all special and I wear them all the time. We never bothered with an engagement ring because we got married fairly quickly after he proposed.

You will torment yourself by overthinking it
grin either way, if you get an engagement ring or a non-engagement ring, it'll be lovely, right? Worst case is that he wasn't talking about you grin does he have a pet bull in need of a nose ring by any chance??

Welliesandpyjamas Sat 18-Oct-14 14:19:28

Or could he have said "I've got her a thing"?

NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 14:23:49

tbh I am impressed that he is even thinking about my birthday. .he is a last minute kind of guy.
whatever he does im sure it will be lovely.

maybe he is buying me a bull haha

good comment about "thing" my drunken mind could have altered my hearing

NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 14:28:50

I could ask dps mate... wink

Nessalina Sat 18-Oct-14 14:30:28

I had one of these moments with my DH, actually two now I think about it, where I thought he was going to propose and didn't blush

First one he was taking me out for dinner for my birthday and as we left the house he said 'ooh I'll be right back' and I spotted him putting a bottle of fizz into the fridge! So I was on pins and needles the whole evening - no proposal! confused When we got in, he said 'I've got an extra pressie for you in the fridge, I know how much you love this fizz' smile Lovely thought, lol, totally buggered up my own evening by assuming more!

The other time was even more silly - I was tidying in his office and found a ring sizing chart in his top drawer shock And he never buys jewellery! Again, I was expectant for a week or so, then he gets a parcel in the mail... 'What's that?' I ask... 'It's my magnetic ring!!' He says, obviously dead excited, 'I got it to do some magic tricks with the kids' (he's a teacher!) grin

So yeah, don't expect anything!!

(We are now happily married after he properly surprised me when he did propose!)

Chaseface Sat 18-Oct-14 14:44:49

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zippyandbungle Sat 18-Oct-14 14:48:36

Oh stop being grumpy chase

Chaseface Sat 18-Oct-14 14:50:34

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NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 14:55:46

oh behave chase

NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 14:58:57

I must have been off sick on the day all grown women were told that from now on we were not allowed to get excited about something

TheDietStartsTomorrow Sat 18-Oct-14 15:06:00

She's a grown woman. I'm sure she'll get over it if it's not a ring. If it is then it is something to be excited about. Marrying my DH was one of the most important decisions that I made and defined my life so I think its pretty sad to be nonchalant about a possible proposal.

OP, you will get over it quickly if its not a ring won't you? smile As you say, no expectations is best way to go but too late now isn't it? Just enjoy the day.

NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 15:14:30

totally agree.
I plan to enjoy whatever happens smile

seaweed123 Sat 18-Oct-14 15:21:55

My DH got me a ring for my 21st, which we spent in Paris. We had been together nearly 3 years. It wasn't an engagement ring - that didn't happen for another 4 years.

I didn't expect an engagement (despite everyone saying "ooh, Paris, bet he proposes" beforehand) so I wasn't disappointed.

I was a tiny bit disappointed that the purchase of a ring meant it would likely be several years before I got another one (I only wear one ring at a time). But I knew that we were saving for a deposit, blah, blah, and the timing of our engagement was very practical and as we had discussed (almost immediately after we were in a financial position to get married straight away).

Have you discussed the future much OP?

Mrsgrumble Sat 18-Oct-14 15:22:01

I hope he does propose.. How lovely, try not to get too excited though!! Let us know grin

LovesPeace Sat 18-Oct-14 15:22:37

Oh, how I long for a husband to 'define my life'.

grin

NamesNick Sat 18-Oct-14 15:32:46

we have discussed the future in that we plan to make a life together.
the only time marriage has ever been discussed is with me saying that marriage should be a 5 year contract and renewable (or not) depending on how the couple feel at the time haha...i was divorced in 2008 and never really expected to get married again
so its unlikely in fairness that it will be a proposal. I would love a nice ring though (as in nice bit of jewellery)

do husbands really define our lives hmm

LovesPeace Sat 18-Oct-14 15:38:05

I was quoting TheDiet.

They shouldn't.

choochoomcgrew Sat 18-Oct-14 15:39:46

Oh I really hope you update us!
Me and my partner were on holiday in America and he didn't propose at the top of the empire state building so I've given up hope.

pippinleaf Sat 18-Oct-14 15:42:27

I had a boyfriend of seven years, who I lived with, who bought me a ring, it was THE most awkward birthday moment ever. He'd literally just bought me a ring. It hadn't even occurred to him that there would be a horrible moment when I wondered which finger it was for and it dawned on him what I was thinking. I never wore that ring as it was such a relationship defining moment and not in a good way. I hope your ring is what you want it to be but please brace yourself if not.

500smiles Sat 18-Oct-14 15:47:42

There really should be a "diarise this thread after the OPs birthday" button so that we can find out if there was a proposal.

I can't see how it could have been anything else OP, I hope you get what you want.

TheRealJoanWarburton Sat 18-Oct-14 15:48:24

for heavens sake.
ring. could be a cock ring - maybe thinks you'll benefit?
her. could be someone else.
he might have bought you just a ring. no further meaning.
why not ask?

HermioneWeasley Sat 18-Oct-14 15:53:47

I'm with Chase - if you want to be engaged why don't you propose and choose a ring together? Or get engagement hiking boots like my friend did grin

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