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my Husbands Ex girlfriend is liking Familie pictures of me and my husband on Facebook

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yellow500 Tue 14-Oct-14 12:29:43

I have been with my husband for 2 years .we recently married a couple of months ago.
5 years ago he had a relationship with a women for a year. My husband told me that when he was with her, she would always say to him he would end up in a relationship with me.

Since we married she has been liking our wedding photos on facebook which our families have uploaded.and liking very close family members facebook status's..which has become more often recently..I don't know what to make of it..is she wishing us well..is she jealous..is she trying to raise her profile as to try to put a spanner in the works of our relationship...I don't feel confident enough to ask her why she is doing this...what does any one think...as she got good intentions or is she trying to be sneeky ..It's obviously getting to me otherwise I wouldn't be posting..any comments would be most appreciated smile

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 14-Oct-14 12:34:40

It's FB ffs.... It's the equivalent of taking out billboards with your personal stuff on them. You post pictures and the world and his wife click the 'like' button. That's the deal. Sorry to sound harsh but if you're really so insecure, do something about your privacy settings or just don't post pictures on FB

BitOutOfPractice Tue 14-Oct-14 12:35:08

Just block her. Job done!

Cricrichan Tue 14-Oct-14 12:38:50

I like my exes' pictures with their new wife and or family. If still in contact with them via fb it's because I'm friends with them. They also like my pictures with dp and my kids' pictures etc. What's wrong with that?

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 14-Oct-14 12:44:22

"is she wishing us well..is she jealous..is she trying to raise her profile as to try to put a spanner in the works of our relationship"

She's clicking a 'like' button and probably giving it no more thought than that.

yellow500 Tue 14-Oct-14 12:50:53

Yes I do know what your saying..about facebook being a social network..however if your not friends with that person on your profile and neither is your close family,, and the person who is liking your photos status's. Ect .is someone that was very unkind to your husband when they were together and we haven't seen that person for years...then I do find that strange...yes she will be blocked...however just posted for opinions on why she may be doing this...

Dirtybadger Tue 14-Oct-14 12:53:05

I would assume that she's being nice. No point about cynical about it and she's no threat (even if she does have some strange ulterior motive) so yes assume she's being nice.

If she's over it in that "it was nice but let's face it everything worked out" way she's probably not giving it a second thought. Maybe just a nice person? There are plenty about!

PinkSquash Tue 14-Oct-14 12:55:37

Are your Facebook settings lax so she can see everything or are you all friends with her?

I suspect she's just liking things and you're paranoid.

gobbynorthernbird Tue 14-Oct-14 12:56:02

I think you all need to check your privacy settings.

cestlavielife Tue 14-Oct-14 13:20:32

maybe she just thinks it is a nice photo ....don't read anything into it... if you posted so she can see the photos it means nothing that she liked them... presumably she is friends with your ex on FB or FB friends with someone who knows you or ex. don't get paranoid.

ravenmum Tue 14-Oct-14 13:25:25

Your husband seems to have had an amicable split with his ex and they are pleasant to one another. You seem to be surrounded by nice, happy people with no ill feelings towards one another. Bask in it while you can!

SaucyJack Tue 14-Oct-14 13:39:12

I would find it very VERY strange if one of DP's exes started trawling through my family members' profiles to look for information about us.

Perhaps she merely doesn't understand the etiquette or realise that it's a massive no-no.
Perhaps

Spindarella Tue 14-Oct-14 13:49:32

It could be anything. I'd be inclined to think she's moved on and so sees it as a fairly neutral gesture.

PillForgettingIdiot Tue 14-Oct-14 13:54:50

She's literally not doing anything. She's seen something, thought 'that's nice' in a fleeting moment, and moved on.

You should too.

NanFlanders Tue 14-Oct-14 13:55:13

My dh's ex does this -( I would sort of expect it as she is my dd's godmother)....If it was an amicable split, then why not?

ToAvoidConversation Tue 14-Oct-14 13:57:53

So she has a relationship with him 6/7 years ago? Maybe they are just nice pics? I really wouldn't read all that in to it. My husbands ex commented on and liked our wedding pics too, I was flattered, she's a nice lady and an excellent photographer.

Just because she is an ex doesn't mean that she's some kind of wicked witch!

Chrissy41 Tue 14-Oct-14 14:01:36

so why don't both of you block her - and change your privacy settings. You can hide everything, including your friends lists, your likes, all photos, etc.

ravenmum Tue 14-Oct-14 15:10:39

The ex knew yellow500 five years ago, so presumably they have mutual friends and she doesn't need to do any trawling whatsoever to see photos of her wedding. She sees one, thinks "Oh nice, red and yellow have got married just as I always predicted, they look lovely together", likes some photos ... and gets blocked?
She split up with him three years before you even got together, yellow, and it sounds like she actually encouraged him to be with you. Why do you think she might be jealous five years after a one-year relationship?

trappedinsuburbia Tue 14-Oct-14 16:03:12

I have liked some of my exes photos and ones with his wife as well, they have also liked some of my family pics, I think the only issue is with yourself.

DaPrincessBride Tue 14-Oct-14 16:11:08

I often 'like' my exes pictures as he is obviously very happy with his wife and daughter. Think you're reading too much into it.

museumum Tue 14-Oct-14 16:16:35

I've got an ex or two on fb. One in particular from uni was and is a good friend and large part of my years at uni (even though we went out after graduation) and we have many good friends in common. I like his posts of his current girlfriend and their baby. They are lovely pictures, they're obviously happy, I'm pleased for him.

I'd be really weirded out if he and his gf blocked me on fb for that.

DancingDinosaur Tue 14-Oct-14 16:19:28

Well if shes not friends with you, your husband or any of your family, then I guess its odd as she's snooping. So tighten up your security. But if she is friends with friends /family then shes prob just being nice.

ImaginaryPoster Tue 14-Oct-14 16:25:39

I like wedding photos and would 'like' anyone's photo to be honest, babies I struggle with past the newborn announcement photo.

I would hit like as they popped up on FB and give it no more thought, probably wouldn't really register if it was an ex or not. If they came via different people uploading them over a period of time I wouldn't register I had already 'liked' that baby or wedding.

Far too much thought on your part, shes not commenting on them just randomly hitting a button as she fancies it.

<goes off to check I haven't liked too many of any ex's photos>

ImaginaryPoster Tue 14-Oct-14 16:28:27

Also as not being friends won't stop them popping up on her news feed if her friends have liked them. You can't tell if she's snooping unless you have tighter controls and anyone else who's uploaded them.

OwlCapone Tue 14-Oct-14 16:33:19

And you thought "I know, I'll join Mn to complain about the fact that I've not set my privacy settings properly on Facebook"

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